Last year was the first time for me to chat with him through chat apps. He was work in Korea and that time I still in my hometown.
We are keep in touch about almost a year, not really intensive but always keep in touch with some pictures, story and light topics.
I was planning study to Korea, that’s why we keep in touch and he helps me for some information.
And this February, I had plan to Taiwan for Chinese New Year Holiday so I told him my plan and he said that he will go back to Taiwan too for holiday so he suggest me to arrange the same schedule with him so we can spend holiday together.
So finally we met for the first time, spent 6 days together. He even took me to his hometown in Taiwan and stay with his family. I was quite shock because at his home, his parent let me stay with him in a same room… I thought Chinese Culture isn’t this open about relationship before married? [color=#0000FF]Does living together before married is a common things in Taiwan?[/color]
After holiday in Taiwan, I went back to my hometown and he also back to Korea.
On March, I came to Korea for study and meet him again. Since we’re living in different city so we just met in weekend. But we really spent a great time in Korea. He took me to many places. He really take care of me.
Bad news, on April he had to go back to Taiwan because the working contract was over. So he will go back and find another job in Taiwan, he don’t like life in Korea, he don’t want to find job in Korea again.
Before he went back to Taiwan, he asked me to come to Taiwan after I finish my study in Korea. He want me to study Chinese in Taiwan and stay with him, he said he will responsible for my study and my daily life.
Beginning June was my semester holiday. Then I went to Taiwan for 9 days holiday.
From April to June, in Taiwan he still jobless. So when I came to Taiwan this time, he didn’t take me for travel and he just took me stay in his hometown. We had a fight about this because he suddenly made decision without asking anything for me. Before came, I already told him that I don’t want to stay in his hometown more than 3 days, but now he made me stay 6 days there. And finally he told me the reason.
Staying in Taipei / travel means we need to stay in hotel and now he is jobless and besides he just spend a lot of money to pay downpayment for apartment in Taipei so he need to wisely use money.
I really not understand, why he didn’t tell me in advance about this? [color=#0000FF]Does Taiwanese guy has a high self pride? So it’s embarrassing for them to say such things looks like “I don’t have money”[/color]
After back from Taiwan, our relationship was getting worse.
He change a lot, never send me message at first, never care about me, everything become like shit.
So I asked him if he want to broke up with me and he said no but he just afraid that we are not match each other… so I think he just need some times. So I just ignore him about 3 weeks finally I asked him if he still want me to come to Taiwan or not. Because I need to do all registration for class next semester on September and his answer really make me upset “if you want to come just come”
I really angry to him and say “I am not going to come just because I want to come. You are the one who asked me to come to Taiwan and stay with you, if you change your mind just say it clearly. It’s been weird but I still keep patient waiting but now I can’t wait anymore.”
And then he said sorry, he explained what actually on his mind. Not because he change his mind, but he has no confident. Now he just got a new job with salary much much lower than when he was in Korea. Every month have to pay installment to bank for the apartment. He is afraid that he can’t give a good life for me, can’t make me happy, can’t take me travel if I stay in Taiwan. That’s all what on his mind~ not because he don’t want me to come. And then after saying all that things, he said he want me to come.
So I do all registration for school and everything. Now the rest is just the payment to school end of August the latest. I still have 1,5 months to consider this condition. Before, I was sure that I want to go Taiwan and stay with him. No one knows future, we might have a smooth relationship or maybe in the end we decide to broke up.
But now… I am not sure as before. Is it worth it to try? Though I don’t have to pay for my school but I need to prepare many things as well. Visa applied, flight ticket, etc… And actually I still want to stay in Korea too…
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Anyone could give me some advise?[/color]