Well, I am a man, so I might not have the viewpoints you are looking for, however my experiences in that regard might have some value in answering the questions you are posing to Braxton Hicks.
I spit up with my former wife in 2004, a subject, which I have expounded on in detail in a few posts earlier.
We have 2 daughters, aged 4 and 7 when we entered Splitsville. (They are 7 and 10 now)
OK, initially we split the kids between us, so I had them every other weekend and 2 weekdays, and my ex wife had them the rest of the time. OK it worked out - somewhat, however especially my oldest daughter was hit a bit by it, her homework was getting worse, and my ex did not really have the resources to take care of it.
OK, last year I got them full time, IE from Sunday night to Saturday sometime. (Sometimes I have them weekends too).
I have remarried, however my current wife will often have to look after her mother, so I am alone with them a fair bit of the time.
This means that early mornings are filled with getting kids up, getting them dressed, fed, and sent off to school etc. I am back home after sending them to school a bit before 8AM.
I collect them at the Anxinban at 6PM. They will usually have made most - but not all - of their homework by them. Due to all the wonderful inventions made, it’s fairly easy to give them a decent feed in the evening, I aim to get them their veggies and meat before 7 PM, so I can spend the evenings surfing forumosa, checking their homework, teaching them Danish when I (read they) have the time to do it, get them to bed, say goodnight prayers etc.
I miss out on f.com happy hours, I will not see friends during the week, however that can be made up over the weekends. As I have a business to run, which requires me to call overseas customers, the days can be rather long, and I am tired when I go to bed.
However despite all the work, it’s really worth it. You do get to know your kids, they get to know you, and the amount of time you spend together is really giving, at least for me. My kids are doing better at school, and they seem very happy. If you asked me if I would swap with my ex wife, the answer would be a resounding NO!
To a large extent, I think it’s a matter of what values you have. If you really want to spend your energy and your time on your kids, then fine, it will be giving to you. If you are not, then it will be tough for all involved, not least the kids.
There are times where it gets a little too much. Being self-employed I would not mind being able to work late at times and sleep in the morning after, something I did before when I had those 2 AM calls to the US to make, and when I do late calls now, I am bone tired the day after. Not having to do the dishes after them every day, and not having to cook once in a while would be great too, so would it be if I did not have to handle their homework (in Chinese) all the time, however that’s the conditions and it’s something I would have a hard time to change.
So it all depends. The perfect situation would be that there was a father and a mother together in the house sharing everything kid related, however that’s not always possible. I for one am bloody impossible when it comes to take care of a say 6-8 month old baby without a backup system (read mother) in place.
The only thing I really miss is that back when I only had them part time, I could take them places on “my” weekends, we went on a few camping trips and drives and the like. However, being there for them every day is extremely giving, and I am willing to go to extreme lengths to make sure that it continues. (In agreemend with their mother, that is).
While this might not answer your question as perfectly as Braxton Hicks would do, then it hopefully gives an alternative viewpoint on it.