When you going to start charging commission ?
Donât need commission. Iâd rather use this sorta friendly-scratch-my-back-I-scratch-yours to fight for us. Especially if I have to take the government to court for removal of discriminatory rules in regards to dual nationality.
It will still be expensive, but it wonât be as expensive.
To OP ⌠my recommendation is to tell her you do not want divorce because of your child. Insist you want to stay with her, because of child. Feel free to make her life difficult in other ways. That way eventually she will want the divorce more than you and you may be able to compromise and simply sign a piece of paper dividing your assets in half.
As I mentioned earlier my wife chose the hardest way for divorce and she put a lot of demand especially we have a baby:
1/ I need to pay 25.000 a month, if am late to pay, it gonna be multiplied 10 and deducted directly from my bank account
2/ I cannot make any fully make decisions regarding my son, like taking him abroad to see my family, only she can
3/ she lied that I told her I will let him join the American school, ( I know rich people and they dont do so) So Expensiiiiive.
4/ she claimed I dont love my 1 year old son and I dont play with him which is not true since during my break time, I spend it at home with him cause I wanna enjoy seeing him grozing front of my eyes.
And the list still loooooong.
Question: What if I refused to pay that amount of money?
Is that going to affect my position regarding the custody.
She just want to get the max of the money and prevent me from the kid.
If someone has been through the same path, please enlighten me and tell me how it ended?
get or at least consult to a lawyer.
if no money
https://www.laf.org.tw/en/index.php
if enough money
LIST OF ATTORNEYS at AIT site
Then donât! Call the lawyer I sent you!
She canât leave until you sign.
Stand up for yourself. Donât allow her to bleed you dry.
Sheâs extorting you.
It will start at 25000 then go up to 50000nt. Every time she will blackmail you that you cant see your child. Go straight to a lawyer. Get someone on your side and stand firm.
I went through something similar around 12years ago. I refused to sign a contract formally giving my wife (at the time) all of my salary each month. Three days later we were divorced. I had to sign a paper her family drew up stipulating I am 100% responsible for the finances of our 6month old son forever, and theyâll never pay a penny. They said if I donât sign it then theyâll take his custody and I wonât see him. Being fresh off the boat, I signed. I then lived by the terms of that document for 5 tumultuous years, paying $16k per month for a nanny and doing my best to raise him (I did an awesome job though) while her family did everything they could to break me (they never came close).
Anyway, I got lucky, my son turned five and I met a new partner. She told me the document is useless, a familyâs terms donât supersede Taiwanese law. We went for free legal advice at the local courthouse in Tainan and they confirmed that I should be receiving alimony. So they ordered her to pay $7000 per month. I couldâve back dated it to the date of our divorce 5 years earlier, but being a gentleman I said from the day of the court order will suffice. She had a team of four lawyers 
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She then started a custody battle that got shot down and she was humiliated in court for lying, and she went with a big shot lawyer provided by her rich family⌠still, I was very impressed with how thoroughly the Taiwanese legal system checked every detail before declaring her a liar. She ended up with the legal minimum of access to our son (at the time), once every two weeks.
Screenshot and archive everything. Remember everything you say via texting apps may be used against you, so choose your words carefully.
TLDR, get some legal advice at the local courthouse⌠once per week at least will have a lawyer who speaks English. Failing that, bring a Taiwanese friend to articulate what you want to address.
Iâm not sure why (some) Taiwanese women behave this way. Itâs like once you agree to live here, they expect you to become a money making puppet.
So he had been living with you for Five years and then she went for full custody out of spite?
During those five years, how much did she see him?
Youâre a legend. Thatâs quite the ordeal to survive and still live to tell the tale.
LOL. Have you been there?
My wife and I went there for a neighbor dispute. They donât want to hear your case, rush you, then pressure you to sign documents stating that you want to quickly settle with the other party. I presume they get some funds from the gov for keeping it out of court.
We decided to take it to court ourselves (no lawyer), and won without even trying.
it depends on who you get and how you use them.
theyâve helped many cases.
Maybe you found a good one. We went to two of them and had the same experience at both.
You donât have to agree to the divorce, if the terms are not ones you like then donât agree. Then she will have to go to court and let them make the decisions which will take years.
In the mean time you can pretty much do what you want, you can move out, stay put, pay money, donât pay money, pay a âreasonableâ amount of money etc etc
But you donât need to (and shouldnât) sign anything at this time, take back your credit cards, move your money away from her, anything in joint with her put a stop to them.
I called the lawyer I have been sent, but no response, and I have an important question please,
a small place has been given by her mother, but I bought all the furniture and all the machines that you could imagine, the estimated amount of the rent is 13.000 .
she keeps asking me to move out, everytime, everyday, she even offered to help, I got a lot of pressure that I am living in her place but at the same time, all what in is mine.
1/ I eventually found a place for 12500 and gave a deposit, so i iwll move by the end of June.
2/ she asked for a divorce several times before but I igonered it till on my birthday last month, she sent me that she cannot keep going sorry.
then I said what it your demand and she replied â what do you offerâ WTF
the court session is on 13 of July.
I am afraid she gonna make up a story that i left the house bla bla, she can say whatever to see me down.
Is that gonna affect me that I am leaving the house.
I know in the USA if you leave the dwelling it is hard to get back after the divorce. Donât trust anything she says. Donât even talk to her. All communications through the lawyer.
Iâm curious but what attracted you to marry her in the first place and where has that gone ?
Get it in writing that she asked you to move out.
Send her an sms and ask why she wants you to move out. For court you need things in writing. Had a friend with same issue wife tells him to move out. Her lawyer claims in court he abandoned family. But he has the kids every weekend.
Judge scolds the woman and lawyer for lying.
Simply do not agree to anything your wife is asking for. Tell her as it is her requesting you move out that she has no right to demand anything. Even a monthly amount. If credit cards are in your name simply have them stopped and get new ones issued. Get yourself a new bank account. Do you not have one from your home country as well?
I will absolutely support your effort in this regard in any way I can! 
She visited me twice and was really super nice, I wanted to have a family with her, till she became toxic
well, one of her sisters had a same story but they were living in Dubai, they have a kid as well, he asked her to go to Taiwan first for holidays, then he will joins them, then he sent her an email stating that she does not need to come back and she is going to be contacted by a lawyer.
I am a scapegoat for this story, since the two sisters are very close, and the other one tell hers what to do and say.