Kind of a complicated situation here. I invited this girl on a date a few months ago and she agreed reluctantly, I say reluctantly because I asked her about 5 or 6 times and she was always busy, then there was a day she was free and we went to a movie. 2nd time I invited her out she was busy busy, with different appointments with her mom and family, then she found time for a second date a few weeks later. I wanted to go mountain climbing but she suggested a romantic movie instead… alright with me.
She got a job overseas for a year and told me she was going there, but it so happened I was going back to my home country for a 3 month vacation anyway.
When I send her a Facebook or LINE message, she will only ever answer back the specific answer to my question, if I type miss you, I get smiley emoticons. She follows on Facebook bloggers with mixed race babies, but then today, she liked the page called 靠北部落客 which appears to be an anti foreigner website? (Can someone who knows Chinese verify this for me. That and the cryptic way I am spoken to now by her.
I am not sure if she is angry that I still keep saying hi to other female friends on Facebook or not, do the girls here get jealous even if you just like another girls FB page or make a comment?
I am asking because 2 years ago I had a similar situation where I went out with a girl that within a few days hated me, refused to tell me what I did wrong, and told me to get lost. I was also still talking with other friends on FB.
I’m trying to figure out if Taiwan girls view it as dating if you only went out 2 times and want exclusivity. It seems unreal but who knows. I took it that she was not interested as I kept having to ask her again and again to finally get a date, so I naturally assumed she was not all that interested.
[quote=“dan2006”]but then today, she liked the page called 靠北部落客 which appears to be an anti foreigner website? (Can someone who knows Chinese verify this for me.
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Took a quick look, looks to me to be a place to complain about anything in general. I didn’t notice anything about foreigners in the few complaints I looked at. “靠北” is a representation of a mild Taiwanese swear word.
In my experience, they don’t get jealous, rather they think you’re “not a serious person”, “just playing” or “a playboy”, especially if you’re a non-asian foreigner. It can be because you talk to other women in less than stone-cold tones, but it can also happen because you mention going to bars often (as bars are for “bad people” to meet “bad girls”).
[quote=“Tempo Gain”][quote=“dan2006”]but then today, she liked the page called 靠北部落客 which appears to be an anti foreigner website? (Can someone who knows Chinese verify this for me.
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Took a quick look, looks to me to be a place to complain about anything in general. I didn’t notice anything about foreigners in the few complaints I looked at. “靠北” is a representation of a mild Taiwanese swear word.[/quote]
if you want my honest opinion i would say she ain’t into you and leave it at that. advice: talk to the other girls who actually respond to you and forget about this one… why would i bother wasting my time with someone who is not interested when i could move on to a next girl who IS? there’s enough of them here to choose from that’s for sure.
I am not sure if she is angry that I still keep saying hi to other female friends on Facebook or not, do the girls here get jealous even if you just like another girls FB page or make a comment?
I am asking because 2 years ago I had a similar situation where I went out with a girl that within a few days hated me, refused to tell me what I did wrong, and told me to get lost. I was also still talking with other friends on FB.
I’m trying to figure out if Taiwan girls view it as dating if you only went out 2 times and want exclusivity. It seems unreal but who knows. I took it that she was not interested as I kept having to ask her again and again to finally get a date, so I naturally assumed she was not all that interested.[/quote]
If I were you she would be on my list of dumped girls, I would not even want her as a friend. I hate when someone gives me the silence treatment, doesn’t come forward and explain what is going on, tries to make me feel guilty for something that I don’t even know. If the dating makes you uncomfortable, feeling like you are walking on eggs most of the time, the woman barely talks, or is too busy, get the hint and let her be. I will never be with a person who makes me uncomfortable, life is too short to waste on such person.
Have to agree with Lros and RtB here. Possibility 1: she’s really into you and playing hard to get - highly unlikely or very very clumsily done. What you have to ask yourself here is if you want to have a relationship with a person who
doesn’t communicate her needs clearly, leaving you always wondering if you are satisfying her, and “punishing” you for reasons you don’t understand (when you do something “wrong”) or
responds to her own insecurities with aloofness, and then gets mad when you don’t reaffirm her value by chasing her. (and trust me, it’s not just women who engage in behaviors 1 and 2 that I’ve listed above- I’ve run into it with men on more than one occasion. Frustrating and unrewarding every time.)
Possibility 2: yeah she’s just not that into you. I get that we are all, to some degree, attracted to people who are a challenge, but even if you did manage to snag this one, she would likely always place herself above you because you worked so hard to get her. You asked her out 5 or 6 times before she finally said yes? That’s way too much, in my opinion.
Move on to a girl who likes you for you, and if you can’t find a girl who likes you for you, improve you until it’s easy to find one.
If she’s really into you, she’ll most likely find a clear way to show it. But if she is into you and she’s acting like this, you probably have nothing but games and manipulation to look forward to. I’d move on if I were you.
Sorry to say, but it sounds like she just wasn’t into you from the start. From a girl’s perspective, if we really like a guy, we will find time to go out with him. A lot of girls have a hard time rejecting a guy outright so we’ll just say “oh, I’m soooo busy, I don’t know when I can” and hope he gets the hint. It might not be the best way of rejecting someone, but that’s the reality. By sending the short messages, she’s probably hoping you’ll lose interest and stop messaging her eventually. I recommend you do just that.
