I think the TW I’m living in is not what most of you experience. But I’m just kind of done with it. I’ve been living here for over 10 years. It was great in the beginning—a stable job, easy living, somewhat living in ignorance, just being a foreigner, and meeting some nice girls on the way.
TW seemed like a safe and nice place. I had no beef with anyone.
Then I got more serious, got married, had kids, and things just got darker and darker from there. Now I live in surrounding where everyone is selfish, envious, gossipy, and downright hateful. All TWese seem out for each other, hustling, cheating and backstabbing.
Tho, I know that’s not what everyone experiences—I see happy families having gatherings and caring for each other—but I can’t actually imagine how that is.
The family I’m in has gotten off the rails. My wife’s mother is dead (cancer 4yo ago), and her father is kinda MIA (being a monk somewhere in the mountains). Her little brother apparently knows everything but spends all of his $33k income on mobile games. Her little sister is in a legal battle with my wife over the house we’re living in, whereas her sister has won the support of the aunts and uncles.
My wife has broken my relationships with my friends and is sour toward my family. I have failed my kids (8 & 6 yo) who are not proud of being only half TW, unless they get compliments on their looks. They like to argue and shout with their mother and ignore any common sense. But I’m the bad guy when I raise my voice.
I’ve been trying to keep a good spin on it all, for the sake of peace at home, but I can’t deal with it any more.
Sorry for the rant. But I need to get it out to see how ridiculous it is (or is it?). Feel free to share how good your experience here is. It helps me put things into perspective.