So the time has come to propose. We are going on a trip at the end of next month so that would be a great place to do it.
The problem is I have no idea what type of ring to buy.
My gf isnt into bling. All of her jewelry is very tasteful and minimal. The rings she wears are basically just metal, no stones or engravings.
Also, im just guessing. I dont know what she likes, im assuming I cant just ask her?
I had a look around some shopping malls and they were all blingy types and insanely expensive. I cant afford to buy a really expensive one, plus it makes no sense that Iâd need to do that then pay for more wedding stuff after. If I do that âŚIâm gonna be out of money. Plus I doubt she would want that anyway.
Any ideas? Im thinking to ask her sister but im not encouraged by everyone else Iâve asked so far saying buy âcartierâ or whatever it was.
Propose to her without a ring. Then take her to a shop to get the ring that she wants. That way youâre covered. You donât get her a ring she doesnât like, but one that she has to pretend to like so as to not hurt your feelings.
Thatâs how I did it very unromantically with my wife back in the day. After a nice day of surfing, I drove us to a jewelry shop. She asked why we were there and I said, âSo you can pick out your engagement ring and wedding ring!â We went in and she got exactly what she wanted. Not very romantic, but practical.
congratulations! I would ask the sister for a suggestion, and not be shy to say your budget.
The wedding if in Taiwan, might turn a profit as gifts (in cash mostly) can sometime exceed the cost. (Though over time you pay it back if singles get married, they keep a record how much each person/family gives)
If she isnât into bling another option is to only have wedding bands, some women that arenât into bling practically never wear their engagement ring.
If youâre wanting to surprise your g/f with the proposal, then ffs donât let her sister in on it. If her sister is close enough to give good advice, then very likely sheâs too close to keep your secret.
Not being sexist or objectifying or whatever, just pointing out human nature.
If the surprise means nothing to you, then it may not be a bad idea. Youâll almost certainly find out in time to cancel the trip if the answer will be âno.â
There are jewelry shops in Taiwan, such as AMC, ALUXE and others, that will let you pick and buy a diamond, and then set it on a temporary ring in the style of your choosing for your proposal, but since itâs set using a type of glue, you have to bring it back with your fiance to either set it on permanently if she likes the ring you picked, or choose a style for herself.
Synthetic diamonds are way cheaper and nobody can tell the difference . Or another cheaper precious stone could be a nice choice. Cos if money is an issue , which it is ..you can be smart about it . Keep it as a surprise donât be asking the sister .
