Just thought I’d share a little here of what my son and I talked about this weekend, and my thoughts.
I’ve said here that I’m teaching English in the elementary school where my son is studying. My own accounts of frustration as an employee aside, the school is well thought of, and my son is doing very well here. Especially considering that when he began here in January (after spending six months in a “bi-lingual” private school), he still spoke almost no Mandarin, and could only read or write Bo Po Mo Fo. He is now a straight A student.
I was at a Dr.'s appointment this weekend and observed my son and nurse talking to one another. Usually, my son still prefers that I do the talking, but he was talking with this nurse quite a lot. Perhaps she was extra pretty? Haha. But whatever the reason, I hadn’t realized just how good his Mandarin skills have become because he doesn’t usually like to do the, “you’re so cute, what grade are you in,” spiel.
I was very impressed with him, indeed. He understood very nearly everything said to him, and he told her that he was also studying Taiwanese. I knew that, but had forgotten it because he never talks about it. Later, when I asked him about it, he said that he can’t really speak any Taiwanese because, for the most part, that teacher just ignores him because he’s an American.
This is really irritating to me. First of all, though my son is American, he’s also quite fully Taiwanese! Secondly, my son is indeed very smart, and very capable, and he WANTS to learn and be included with his peers.
But his Taiwanese family isn’t a part of his life, so his American mom is all he’s got. At times like these, I begin to feel like a liability to him. And that’s just crazy, because of course it is his ignorant teacher who is the liability.
Anyway, I believe I can take this up with the school, and with his teacher, but I wonder if it’s worth the effort? For me, any language acquisition is a marvelous thing. It aids in brain development, problem solving and critical thinking skills, linguistic and cultural understanding, even math skills are aided by understanding other grammars. But practically, he’ll never really need Taiwanese. He’ll always be able to use Mandarin here, or on the main land.
Also, it’s not likely I’ll be at this school next year; for several reasons, plus we both are feeling like maybe it’s time to go “home” again.
I guess what I want to say here is that it can be such an up-hill battle. My son is Taiwanese. He should be at home here. But he’s treated differently and feels it keenly. I’m teaching at the school. I should have known about this months ago, but I didn’t. In fact, I avoid my son’s classroom as much as possible when other kids are there because I’m very aware that the more he’s seen with me, the more different his peers perceive him to be.
So, just be encouraged. My son and I should have this better than anyone else, but still we find lots of hard spots with public education here. Don’t give up. You kid needs you to continue to fight the fight.