Hello all,
I grew up in San Francisco and so as a straight male, I tend to think I understand a bit more about gay culture than others back in the States. However, after moving to Taipei, I noticed some weird situations and behaviors and some were very uncomfortable. I’d like to get to know more the truth in order to adjust my attitude towards these things the right way. This also happens to a few of my buddies and even my female friends agree on the weirdness.
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Numerous Taiwanese guys adore Abercrombie and Fitch and wear them with pride. Where I come from, this is a store dedicated to people only with ‘gayish’ taste and style. The guy that populated this brand came out of the closet in recent years as well. I’ve never once met a straight guy back in the States wearing anything related to A & F, and we don’t shop at those stores either. But here in Taipei, tons and tons of Taiwanese guys wear them. Are they trying to show they are gay for easier dating purpose (like wearing earrings on right ear) or just like to show they got lots of money buying expensive gay/metrosexual clothings?
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I’ve noticed a lot of Taiwanese guys put arms around each other on the street exactly like how a straight guy embraces his girlfriend and then touch each other’s butt or chest or try to hold the other guy’s hand or caress their hair and most of the targeted guys would brush off the other guy’s hand as if they don’t want to but not becoming hostile as if it’s sexual harassment, and then the action repeats later on with same reaction. Straight? I asked a few of them with uneasiness and they all say it’s not a gay thing. Really???
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This is the uncomfortable part. Several Taiwanese guys I met would put their hands on my shoulder and surprise me with massaging my shoulders or neck while trying to chat with me while I’m sitting in a chair. Some would ‘tease’ me by quickly slightly touching my butt or nipples or my stomach when saying goodbye but would back off when I told them I do not like that, but then they would all say it’s a guy thing and not homosexual, as if it’s like fist pumping each other and continue to do so next day. This happened to 2 of my American buddies and we all felt uncomfortable or weird when those Taiwanese guys do that. Is this a cultural thing or are these guys stuck in the closet?
Thanks for reading and any positive explanation is appreciated.