Ok… here’s the story. You guys tell me what you think.
A friend of my roommate’s friend from back home comes to Taiwan and stays on our couch for five weeks. No problem. Except, in the five weeks he is with us, he does little to ingratiate himself or make himself a welcome houseguest.
He never does his dishes; he leaves his garbage on the kitchen counter in little piles (when I pointed out that we have bugs in Taipei and it would be appreciated if he would take his trash to the trashcan, three metres away on the balcony, he responds that he likes to wait until a little pile accumulates before taking it out, so as not to waste energy — fine…if it were his house); he eats food in the fridge and doesn’t replace it, and he leaves floaters in the toilet on numerous occasions. Plus, he makes many long distance phone calls to the US and Korea and hands our phone number out to the point where he gets more phone calls than any of us. He doesn’t appear to be in any hurry to move out, so finally my roommate asks him to be out by the end of the weekend. Monday comes, and he still hasn’t left so one of us leaves him a note asking him to please move out, leave the keys behind and leave some phone bill money.
His response??? Calls the guy “passive-aggressive” and takes great umbrage at the use of the phrase “your stay has become a serious imposition”. He leaves with a lot of written insults, takes the keys with him, and leaves no money. We hear nothing for two weeks. He still has a key to the house. He knows when we all work, so he could very well be letting himself in during the day, for all we know.
Yesterday, midday, he lets himself in with our key. Someone is home and asks him for the key back, also mentions the money again. He offers no apologies for his behaviour, leaves the keys, and still refuses to give 600NT towards bills. He takes off into the sunshine.
Am I crazy, or is this ridiculously insensitive? It’s not about the money, or at least it wouldn’t be if he’d contributed to cleaning and cooking during his stay. I just can’t understand the logic of someone who stays with people for five weeks, then gets resentful because they ask him to chip in a measly 600 NT towards bills. Is this a really awful thing to ask for? If he had stayed in a hostel that long, he certainly would have paid a lot more. Plus, to not do anything to help out just seems really selfish and ungrateful. Who does he think he is taking our keys and letting himself into our house, like we owe him something? We never met the guy before a few months ago.
What do you guys think? Who’s right, who’s wrong?