after turning down this guy, you still hang out a lot with him. Recently you find yourself have a crush on him but it seems that his prusuit has gone underground. but the sure thing is that he isn’t seeing others. what should you do to get him back?
That’s easy. Take over the pursuing. You turned him down. You made it clear that you were not interested. Now you suddenly are interested. It’s up to you to tell him you’ve had a change of heart and see him as date material. Basically, it’s your turn to do the asking out.
I did ask him out. we even hung out at each other’s house. we had pretty good time when we got together but I feel that he treats me only as a friend now. none of us ever want to talk about feelings or try to cross the line between friends since we had done that some time ago
Depending on how clueless/inept/naive/inexperienced the guy is, he might see you asking him out to do things as you being cool and not freaked out with him pursuing you. He’s probably grateful that you’re still his friend as he obviously dug you. Perhaps a more direct, “Hey, you still available?” is in order?
Get him drunk and try again then. BUT make sure you talk about your feelings BEFORE you jump him.
Sugar cane, if this guy’s like me, then your rejection will be taken as a concrete decision. It’s up to you to make it 100% clear that you have changed your mind. Otherwise he will assume that you just want to be (good) friends, no matter how “obvious” you think you’re being.
I would recommend sitting down with him and actually admitting you made a mistake turning him down. Do it quickly too, because when I have ever been rejected in the past, once I got over it, there was no going back.
Good luck.
These sorts of deals are long in the past for me but from what I recall I was pretty much like Irishstu. If a woman rejected me it hurt like hell for a bit but then within a few weeks or so I couldn’t imagine what I ever saw in her.
I told him that I like him and enjoy time with him. I even met him three times in 24 hours. we don’t live close to each other. isn’t it enough?? don’t tell me to seduce him. I don’t how 
He might think you’re nice to him just because you feel pity for him. Be straightforward.
You don’t need to seduce him, he’s yours if you’re quick enough.
Take him by surprise. Ask something very concrete. Kiss him or something.
And keep us posted.
Good luck!
You’re likely going to have to be the one to cross that line and tell him. It’s great that you’re spending time with him, but remember you rejected him. Don’t assume your signals are obvious anymore. You don’t want to seduce him. Why not? It’s almost the year 2006. Women can be the initiators in relationships once in a while. You may think you’re being obvious with the amount of time you’re spending with him and maybe you are. Still, remember the following scenario is still fresh in his mind—him: “wanna be my girl?” you: “No!” That rejection has created a barrier to moving further in your relationship. It’s up to you to get rid of that barrier.
“You know what? I don’t know what was wrong with me, seriously. I can’t believe I did that before?!”
“What, what are you talking about?”
“Well, you know, when you asked me out before, I really wasn’t thinking clearly…I so regret it that I said no. It’s really not how I feel now. I like you. (insert any other declaration of feelings from this point on.) Did I miss my opportunity?”
There, done.
By the way, if I just turned down a guy a few weeks ago and we have been hanging a lot still and I realize I like him now…
Honey, I wouldn’t waste a second. Most fast. Like the guys said, you want to get in while you can…and what is the likelihood of him rejecting you? Not much, right?
How to seduce a man: “I want to shag you.”
The end.
PM me his phone number with his and your name and i’ll tell him for you.
er…I’d prefer to tell him in person although I haven’t figured out how.
we met up for dinner today. as usual, we talked and discussed well…there was a moment I almost tell him. but I didn’t think we should talk about our feelings over food…just couldn’t switch the eating mode to another 
Text messages are a good tool for the shy girl.
You can send little sweet ones that give it up, but aren’t whorey “I think you’re so cute” and such.
Then again he might just think your nuts. Guy s often thing we are nuts when we change our minds…
man, it’s only been a few weeks, there are probably still plenty of leftover flames left to kindle.
So find a moment and kiss him, or catch his hand. That’s the most direct route without having to say a word. I think it can still be pretty obvious that you like him without having to tell him.
Or hint to him: It goes like this:
“Have you ever done something stupid that you regret and you wish you could take it back? Well, I have, a couple weeks ago actually, and I really regret it now.” (look a little sheepish and if you can blush at will and act cute, this is the time to do it ) Then look at him very directly as to jog his memory because he’ll not want to remember the embarrassing moment when you rejected him. If he smiles or gives some kind of positive acknowledgement, you are in the clear.
Then you can tell him: “Would u mind if I take it back?” (But you already know the answer. This would also be a good time to touch his shoulder or play with his fingers or gently punch his arm (to lighten the awkward moment and keep it light) and smile at him shyly.
Guys get touching. Touching, any kind of touching is a signal here. It’s the green light and it means GO! 
See, you never even had to directly mention that you rejected him.
When I met this guy for the second time, he was showing me around a new city and he kept leading me by putting his hand on the small of my back and gently nudging me in the direction we should go. It was pretty obvious.
And when we were crossing the street, I would take his arm lightly. That was my signal to him.
It didn’t go further than that that day, but I think we both knew.
Rainy days are great. Never bring an umbrella, or bring it but keept it hidden. That way, you share an umbrella and while he holds it up, take his arm and stay very close to him. It’s quite romantic actually. If you want, you can even lean on his shoulder when you stop at a light.
Now if that isn’t obvious, I don’t know what is.
This would also be a good time to try the conversation I just suggested above.
And, just your luck, it
Do the guy a favor and leave him alone.
What is he your own personal yo-yo, “I don’t like you; I like you”
Maybe you should examine your own feelings and figure out why when he wanted you it was no go, and then as soon as he lost interest you suddenly like him.
Doctor heal thy self before you get in there and fuck with some one else. I am not trying to be mean here but really take a long hard look at your own actins before you act. If he is a nice guy he may deserve better than the up and down trip.
just a thought
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[quote=“shifty”]Do the guy a favor and leave him alone.
What is he your own personal yo-yo, “I don’t like you; I like you”
Maybe you should examine your own feelings and figure out why when he wanted you it was no go, and then as soon as he lost interest you suddenly like him.
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Often a girl doesn’t think of a guy “like that” and then when he says something she is taken off guard. "oh! I don’t think of you like that!!!"but since he mentioned it, she considers it. And often is suprised to find that it isn’t an icky thing to consider.
And then there is the idea that maybe they hadn’t been hanging out long enough for her to get what a cool guy he was. And now that they have been hanging out, she gets it.
My last serious relationship was after I shot him down like 10 times.
Then again, I likely would have kept doing so but I think the relationship started on a drunk night.
Shifty, that’s the best bit of advice I’ve seen on here yet.