Giving the kid to the grandparents to raise for the first number of years is:
- NOT OK
Every time there is a thread on maids, this crops up. So here it is in all its splendor:
Very common in Taiwan is the real-life situation across my lane.
Some couple in their late 20s or so have a kid. They give it to their parents (the baby’s grandparents) to keep during the weekdays. On the weekends (or sometimes only Sunday) the folks come and visit and sometimes bring the child back to wherever “home” is for the day.
This couple has just had another kid. The first one is about three or so. Both now spend most of their time with the parents’ parents.
This really rubs me the wrong way. If you decide to have a child, you must be willing and able to shoulder the responsibility of bringing it up. The issues here are manifest: responsibility, bonding, proper care, etc.
(By the way, this young couple also tried this trick with their dog, if you can believe that. It barked so much at the grandparents’ house at the end of its 3-foot lead 24-hours a day that the neighbors – after about 6 months of this shit – persuaded them to get rid of it.)