How does a Taiwanese woman hit on a guy?

To put it another way: if a local woman is hitting on me, how can I tell for sure? I think I kind of need to know. I’m from Boston. I’m not used to such friendly people. I could go wrong two ways. I could read too much into it, or I could read too little into it.

Women are ambiguous. Asians are ambiguous. So Asian women are doubly ambiguous. Too much plausible deniability. Throw in a language gap and a culture gap, and what have you?

Followup questions:

How do I handle it if I’m interested?

How do I handle it if I’m not interested?

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Being very interested in you is a sign. Asking a lot of personal questions (although many taiwanese ask a lot of personal questions in general) may indicate interest. Inviting you over to her house for a visit is another. Suggesting “dates” where she and yourself can go to such and such a place is a definite sign.

If she comes alone on your first date, she likes you. If she comes with other people she is super shy or is thinking of putting you in the friend zone.

They will usually soon make you aware they are interested in a bf/gf relationship with you. She may even suddenly kiss you. Thats a sure sign.

How to handle if you are interested? Kiss her back.

How to handle if you are not? Dont kiss her back, deflect her kiss. Dont think you can bang and run.

You will find out, don’t sweat about it

[quote=“rowland”]To put it another way: if a local woman is hitting on me, how can I tell for sure? I think I kind of need to know. I’m from Boston. I’m not used to such friendly people. I could go wrong two ways. I could read too much into it, or I could read too little into it.

Women are ambiguous. Asians are ambiguous. So Asian women are doubly ambiguous. Too much plausible deniability. Throw in a language gap and a culture gap, and what have you?

Followup questions:

How do I handle it if I’m interested?

How do I handle it if I’m not interested?[/quote]

I’ve rarely met a local woman that I couldn’t bonk if I really wanted too, and I’m not Brad Pitt nor Cassonova… man, DON’T think too much. Go for it, enjoy life and enjoy it in wonderful bliss together.

oh yeah if theres a lot of physical contact, like shes grabbing you a lot, or nudging you or pushing you or giving you “innocent” little whacks on the back or slaps on the arms or jumping on you or giving you little kicks… yeah she likes ya ! :slight_smile: Just dont let her ever take up taekwondo.

[quote=“rowland”]To put it another way: if a local woman is hitting on me, how can I tell for sure? I think I kind of need to know. I’m from Boston. I’m not used to such friendly people. I could go wrong two ways. I could read too much into it, or I could read too little into it.

Women are ambiguous. Asians are ambiguous. So Asian women are doubly ambiguous. Too much plausible deniability. Throw in a language gap and a culture gap, and what have you?

Followup questions:

How do I handle it if I’m interested?

How do I handle it if I’m not interested?[/quote]

If you are not interested it is pretty easy. Just don’t agree to go places with her. I don’t think that there are many Taiwanese women who won’t just let it go if you don’t show any interest in return.

This reminds me of that time in Barcode when one really attractive Taiwanese lady started flirting with me and I told her I had a girlfriend (nv peng you). She was unfazed and told me she could be my “pao you”. Nothing happened that night but I was later explained the meaning of that term and wondered if I should have taken action :smiley:

[quote=“rowland”]How do I handle it if I’m interested?

How do I handle it if I’m not interested?[/quote]

If you like her then you don’t need anything. She will do everything. Here the women don’t follow that book “The Rules”. They usually are easy catch.
If you don’t like her just tell her that she is too fat (that never failed me before )

[quote]Being very interested in you is a sign. Asking a lot of personal questions (although many taiwanese ask a lot of personal questions in general) may indicate interest. Inviting you over to her house for a visit is another. Suggesting “dates” where she and yourself can go to such and such a place is a definite sign.

If she comes alone on your first date, she likes you. If she comes with other people she is super shy or is thinking of putting you in the friend zone.

They will usually soon make you aware they are interested in a bf/gf relationship with you. She may even suddenly kiss you. Thats a sure sign.

How to handle if you are interested? Kiss her back.

How to handle if you are not? Dont kiss her back, deflect her kiss. Dont think you can bang and run.Love your wife ! Love your cat ![/quote]

Well I have been here for a bit now (Nov 2010) And I’d say feel it out and have fun man. It’s never the same with any girl here, but most do have “local” habits that I can read now.

But Taiwanese girls don’t say come back to my crib unless they are single,older and independant, younger and living with roomates or some other special thing ( a freak! :lick: ) not so often right away, especially if they live with the family. They usually want to come to YOUR place!
:discodance:

1 outgoing girl I met brought her GF on a date and that was to ask her girlfriend what she thought of me. I found this out later. She was at my place by date 3 and by date 4. Well there was a lot of noise at my place beteween 1 and 2a.m. & I don’t mean the TV was too loud.
:wink:

A co-worker never said much to me and seemed a little cold. Then one day she gave me an envelope with xmas card (They give them to all the English teachers.) She had slipped a note in it. She really wanted to go out and did not know how to ask when no one else was around. We did.

Just never know.

If not interested just be polite and treat them nice but don’t let them get too close.

you surprised me when i read your contents…
i think you have to know why the woman who hit you…?
did you ask her? or you did something wrong in her?
nobody will hit you without reason…

Hi vivi and welcome, to clear up some confusion here I think, “hit on” means something like “追” and not actual hitting

[quote=“vivi183183”]you surprised me when I read your contents…
I think you have to know why the woman who hit you…?
did you ask her? or you did something wrong in her?
nobody will hit you without reason…[/quote]

Nominated for Classic Post :thumbsup: ( unless its a smurf post :laughing: )

Vivi, if you are real, google ; " hitting ON someone vs. hitting someone :notworthy:

[quote=“vivi183183”]you surprised me when I read your contents…
I think you have to know why the woman who hit you…?
did you ask her? or you did something wrong in her?
nobody will hit you without reason…[/quote]

I was going to say, slowly and painfully.
She did it much better than I could.
The title is begging for slaps.

[quote=“rowland”]To put it another way: if a local woman is hitting on me, how can I tell for sure? I think I kind of need to know. I’m from Boston. I’m not used to such friendly people. I could go wrong two ways. I could read too much into it, or I could read too little into it.

Women are ambiguous. Asians are ambiguous. So Asian women are doubly ambiguous. Too much plausible deniability. Throw in a language gap and a culture gap, and what have you?

Followup questions:

How do I handle it if I’m interested?

How do I handle it if I’m not interested?[/quote]
To me , guys are ambiguous than Women…

[quote=“vivi183183”]you surprised me when I read your contents…
I think you have to know why the woman who hit you…?
did you ask her? or you did something wrong in her?
nobody will hit you without reason…[/quote]

We have to be careful on Forumosa . These people may hit you without a reason :slight_smile: They read our contents daily.

[quote=“ceevee369”][quote=“vivi183183”]you surprised me when I read your contents…
I think you have to know why the woman who hit you…?
did you ask her? or you did something wrong in her?
nobody will hit you without reason…[/quote]

Nominated for Classic Post :thumbsup: ( unless its a smurf post :laughing: )

Vivi, if you are real, google ; " hitting ON someone vs. hitting someone :notworthy:[/quote]

I’m a big hit with the ladies.

As a western woman, I can say these signs ring quite true for Taiwanese men too. When I arrived I didn’t fancy my chances, in fact I prepared for a year of single-dom, however, I’ve found this hasn’t been the case.

From my understanding… If they’re not interested, they’ll ignore you, turn down suggestions, be fairly cold when I talk to them etc.

There are many Taiwanese who see me and are interested in the exoticness of a westerner. They might just want to talk to you so they can boast to their friends, or merely out of curiosity. I spend a lot of time trying to convince random people I’m not special for that reason and that I really don’t want that attention.

If they make a point of talking to you, make excuses to touch you (learning each others language with eachother seems to present these opportunities - demonstrating a word by touching the other person.) Arrange or encourage further time together (especially if alone) then yes, they want things to develop.

If they are very touchy feely, but aren’t keen on introducing you to the family, or even their friends, you’re just a bit of fun, they don’t consider you a long term prospect. If they introduce you to their friends or family, they’re more serious about you.

bringing up the topic of past relationships, attitude to love/sex etc also seems to happen, and I guess is a way to find out if you’re on the same page.

My advice then, is to encourage anything which you mutually like, don’t do anything either of you don’t want, have fun, enjoy the mutual feelings and deal with any differences of expectation as you see them arise

I just had lunch late, and when I left, I was the last customer out.

The waitress (who smiles at me a lot) was sitting with her pants pulled down so far that the only things left unviewable were the parts she was actually sitting on.

Does she like me, or was she mooning me? It’s really very important that I understand this one correctly.

Help, please.

[quote=“IdeaRat”]I just had lunch late, and when I left, I was the last customer out.

The waitress (who smiles at me a lot) was sitting with her pants pulled down so far that the only things left unviewable were the parts she was actually sitting on.

Does she like me, or was she mooning me? It’s really very important that I understand this one correctly.

Help, please.[/quote] :smiley:

depends, was she cute?