Hello everyone,
I am new here, I don’t usually turn to forums for help, but I REALLY need some. I’ve been spending a lot of sleepless nights trying to figure out my situation. I’m hoping someone can help.
I’m a foreigner married to a Taiwanese man. My husband is truly awful. We’re I to file for divorce, he would meet almost all of the criteria needed for me to file in court. I do have some proof of these things, and can get more, but we, at this time, are still married because I do not want to do anything before I know exactly what I need to do, how to do it, and what lawyers are the best in this situation.
I am scared to pull the trigger on this because we have a young child and I have read and heard the worst horror stories on this forum. I am the child’s primary caretaker. My husband has no money at all, no job, has huge amounts of debt, and does not give me money at all for our child. He visits once weekly when he is not living with his girlfriend (which he thinks I don’t know about), and before was living outside of the home entirely and only contacted our child when I made contact. He is also verbally abusive to me and my son and can go into violent rages at the drop of a pin. You get the picture, he isn’t a great guy.
I live with my husband’s family, and before our marriage deteriorated, we planned to move back to my home country. His family members are now informing me that he does not want to go back and he wants my son. He is scared I will take him back to my country and not return, so he said he would refuse to sign any consent forms for me to even visit my country with my child.
I am currently on a JFRV, which I am considering turning into an APRC.
I have spoken to a lawyer who advised me to flee due to his nefarious underworld connections, but I won’t because I’m not just going to run away with my kid, that is unfair and not legal.
I need advice. I need to know which lawyers are good, and who I need to contact. Money is no object, I just want to ensure custody of my child, and have lawyers that know how to deal with this situation, what evidence I should be collecting, and etc. Being the mother, I hope for custody, but I am under no illusions having read the stories here about foreign spouses and custody battles. That is why I’ve turned to you to try to help myself before I start down this messy and awful road.
Any and all help is appreciated, thanks.
