[quote=“superchicken”]I just got married to a Taiwanese woman, but now it seems like we have to go to her parents’ house every single weekend. I can’t handle sitting there in the tiny living room with everyone squaking at once and the TV blasting all day and night. Even worse, My in-laws think I am really weird because I seem to not enjoy spending my weekend like that. My wife knows that I don’t enjoy it, but insists I need to spend some time with her family. Will I every get my weekends back?Has anybody else gone through this before and emerged successfully?
By the way, is there a complete resource for getting all those things I need for my resident visa? I looked on http://www.taiwanweddinginfo.com and it was pretty helpful, but with the rules constantly changing, how do you know what is required now and what isn’t?
Thanks, Superchicken :help:[/quote]
take charge ! be the man you are supposed to be !! When her relatives and her see the MAN IN CHARGE in you, they will respect you. STand up and take charge!
note: unless her parents are helping you guys out financially big time, then?? eat humble pie
Dont see it as an insult to you though. Because what happens is that a Taiwanese girl marrying into another Taiwanese family will not be able to be as free as one marrying a foreigner. And often the foreigner is “adopted” into the Taiwanese family. Its not an insult , its considered a good thing. And besides early in marriage your wife probably misses her parents and family a huge amount and wants to spend time with them. So give her time to adjust. Make yourself at home in her house, now that you are also family. Actually in time you willl see them looking up to you for opinions and other things when they see that you are able to take care of their daughter.
I would usually let my then wife off at her parents or inlaws and pick her up later. And would also participate in a lot of family things tooo. Her sisters german husband spent a lot of time with her family, but didnt feel like an outsider after awhile and everyone just learned to get along very well with everyone else, given a bit of time. IN fact her family catered more to the german guy then the other way around. Always making sure he got plenty of beer and they always went to where he wanted to go to eat, etc etc, He was treated like a king !! Now they are still married and IM not !! So? I guess better to make sure you are one with the family huh?