My story is a bit different but I’ll chime in.
I met my wife while she was visiting friends in Cali and we hit it off. We spent 2 weeks together then she came back here. It evolved into almost nonstop messaging, calls, and Skype. After a few months I came here and married her. We wanted the same thing, made a plan, and made it work.
See, mine is different, but here’s where I can help; you both need to want the same thing. You both need plans. You both have to be open books ( to each other). She hardly seems to know what SHE wants for herself as far as where to live, go to school, etc. You have options,but seem flexible. You two really need to sit down and have a deep discussion of what you want, what she wants.
If you both want each other, and are both willing to wait, make a plan and make it work. Figure out the path, then commit! If she can’t do that, you may have to cut ties, as much as it may hurt. Hope this helps a little.