Building off my other thread Leaving Taipei to Shanghai for work?, i’ve been offered a great opportunity in Shanghai and I’m really considering going. Problem is, i don’t think it makes sense for my GF to go. She is ready to go to uni for her bachelors after taking time off. She is an Italian citizen and me an ROC and US dual citizen so we do have to find some where we can both live. She is only in Taiwan because of me at this point, and me moving would most likely mean her looking at Uni somewhere else as her ARC runs out and she isn’t interested in staying if i’m leaving.
Basically she wants to study journalism/media…and i’m pretty sure the PRC is not the best place to study that…and nothing seems to pop up for her in English taught courses, only business related in shanghai. Although she would probably come with me if I asked…I don’t think it’s fair for her not to be able to go pursue her own path.
We have been together for over a year, with a good relationship and pretty much support of it from her and my family. Her family likes me so much, they invited me to Italy and let me and her daughter stay at one of their villas this summer after a year of being together.
I thought it would easier to find a option, but we’ve looked, and there doesn’t seem to be a way for both of us to pursue our paths without compromising each other’s. It’s been a touchy topic recently the more we really talk about it and dig into our options as there doesn’t seem to be one that really works with us staying together in the same place at this point.
So if i decide to go without her, it would most likely be 4 years before we can be together again as she finishes school. It seems like a pretty difficult idea as i’m not really the most talkative person and I know it would be a huge struggle for me to be good about being able to give her the time she would need for her to be happy with the relationship. It’s already something i’m trying at now living together as I’m a bit of a loner at times.
Do you guys have any inputs or experiences like mine?