My Taiwanese boyfriend makes comments about my tummy fat semi-regularly and encourages me to work out to lose it. (He also encourages me to work out for general health reasons, which I do appreciate.) Although losing some tummy fat certainly wouldn’t hurt, I never really saw it as something I needed to do anything about, as I think it’s quite normal. I’m 5’4" 130 lbs/162.5cm 59kg (as far as I know), and doctors have always told me I am well withing a healthy range. Personally I have always been relatively confident with my body image.
For the sake of my boyfriends preferences, I am willing to work toward losing a little fat, but I am not sure how serious I should take this. He seems to think weight loss can be mostly attained through exercise, while as far as I am informed, it has more to do with diet.
I have a problem with eating consistently, and often skip meals. This has been worse since I came to Taiwan. I’m also pretty sure it’s led me to lose a little off my waist, as my pants are feeling a lot more roomy than before. I am aware that skipping meals is probably not a very healthy weight loss strategy and I’m a little afraid that if I focus more on weight loss, I will let it become another excuse to skip meals and maybe be a slippery slope to an eating disorder.
I guess this post is a bit all over the place right now, but I’m trying to figure out how I should balance this pressure to lose weight with my own concerns. (Note, it’s not a huge pressure, and my boyfriend already thinks my body is very sexy the way it is right now.) I think doing it would really be a nice gesture, especially since he works out very hard to keep his nice figure. But on the other hand, I feel like this desire for me to have no tummy fat is influenced by the body image that promoted in the media (and especially Taiwanese/Asian media). I am all up for exercising more, and I am starting to go to the gym more than I used to, but does anyone have any advice on how I should balance this desire from my boyfriend for me to lose weight while maintaining a healthy body image/lifestyle? Is how my boyfriend thinks of my tummy fat even something I should concern myself with that much? Or would brushing it off in favor of “body positivity” be being too sensitive?
Edit for typo