Sounds like you need yoga.
Why yoga of all things?
Yoga ticks all your boxes. Improves posture, balance, flexibility, and muscle strength/endurance.
How does yoga improve endurance without cardio?
I guess I find my workout routine more appealing because I already know how to do it and I know Iâm checking off all the boxes of the things I want to do.
Then donât change anything.
It sounds like you may have a preference for people who donât give you constant shit about your weight. I suggest constantly nudging your partner to align with your preference
I think that if you decide to lose weight (and I agree this should be your decision, not his) then given your situation (apt, canât cook) then IF is the way to go.
Keep in mind that IF doesnât mean that you skip calories, it means that you take in those calories at a certain time each day. The point of the timing is it restricts your pancreas from releasing the hormone (insulin) responsible for finding loose calories and storing them in fat cells to once a day, and gives your body a few hours each day to oxidize/burn fat thatâs been packed away already.
Everybodyâs different. If the meal you canât skip is breakfast, then donât skip it. Eat a big one. Eat another meal no more than eight hours later if you must, then stop eating until next morning. That puts your pancreas to sleep insulin-wise and for a few hours before breakfast your body will likely burn fat for its energy needs (youâll be sleeping so you can see why most IF people skip breakfast, itâs inefficient). Weight loss will take longer, so what.
You sound like a terrific person, btw. I hope this guy is properly impressed by your willingness to make him happy. Just make sure youâre happiest doing that, and donât hesitate to dump him over this issue. Youâre going to be fine without him.
My girlfriend makes the most amazing breakfasts that have helped me lose weight, mostly raw ingredients very little fridge space needed, some like the Chia seed and Oats are best prepared in milk or water and left overnight.
She shows every day on Instagram if you use it.
instagram: le_petit_dejunere
if you are a westerner, mocking each other for being fat is not normal for us. so why donât you tell him where to go?
every girl iâve met here tells me to shave. i told them all where to go! i could care less that every taiwanese guy is clean shaven. they also donât shave their dick, should i do that too?
now heres the reason your bf is telling you this, you said you are 60kg. the standard here is 50kg. if you are above this weight you are considered fatter than the ideal. and you will be mocked for it.
What age group are you two?
Iâm very impressed with your openness, wanting to understand and willingness to find ways. Super mature.
I guess it could be best to (at the same time) tell him why the way he mentions this makes you feel uncomfortable and how itâs much harder for you to do something like this than it is for super-fit Asian him, and try to find out if thereâs a way to fulfill his wish that you are comfortable with. Maybe even just acknowledging his wish helps make him mention it less? Maybe you can channel his bit of nagging into being supportive and helpful?
Iâm not impressed with several people here immediately insisting to dump the BF. Yes, if he consistently was an asshole about this, shaming you or anything like that, and NOT reacting to you asking him to stop, then such radical solutions might be necessary. From your description, itâs far from that.
The idea that this has a bit of a cultural component doesnât seem too far off. People here often are very open (read: rude) about pointing out bodily flaws. It sucks, itâs degrading, itâs inappropriate. If heâs open enough, heâll learn itâs a no-no in your culture, and most importantly for you.
its one of the stupidest parts about chinese culture.
one of my friends had a girl tell him, on the first date. you donât dress well. not like a gentleman. lets go to zara and choose some better clothes for you. how could they ever think that would work out well?
Huh? A girl buying me Zara clothes on the first date would not be a bad start
One of those threads screaming âDont click and get involvedâ
Do men buy clothes in Zara ?
i donât think she was offering to payâŚ
Yep
We all know the right way to handle this:
âI wish youâd lose some weightâ
âYeah, well I wish you had a longer toolâ
The food does look beautiful and very nutritious.
When I had a spare tyre, my Asian girlfriend was always grabbing it and laughing! I know She meant no hurt but of course I was un comfortable with it.
Now other way round I donât do it to Her, different culture we both have to try to addapt to each other or itâs a no go, we both found it difficult and still do.
May try and explain this to him and let him know gives some pain.
I went out with a few guys like this. Maybe he wants to feel better about himself so heâs criticizing you? Or he has trouble saying something nice?
Either way, Iâd run for the hills.