I’m good friends with a married Taiwanese couple and I really feel like a part of their family now. The husband and I get on pretty well and the wife is like my surrogate big sister.
The husband’s mother recently came to stay with them for Chinese New Year and much as I tried to like her, I couldn’t help think that she was a xenophobic old Taiwanese cow. Within ten minutes of meeting her she was spouting a rabid diatribe about those f’in dirty Hakkas and her other son who is bad and never prays and telling me to get myself a nice compliant Japanese wife. She was amazed that I - a man, no less - did my own washing and kept my own house clean. I made my excuses and walked away when she started on my pet peeve of pressuring me to go to church.
Anyhow… this afternoon I came back from dinner and she was lurking around, waiting to offload some thoughts about her daughter-in-law. Apparently she’s a ‘dirty whore with no love in her heart’ and raised a disobedient daughter. She’s ‘dirty’ because she doesn’t follow her husband around with a mop and bucket and a ‘whore’ because she smokes. Her husband smokes too but I guess that’s fine. This old bag was literally spitting Taiwanese obscenities such that you’d think she was talking about the devil himself.
For the first time in my life I was speechless, said ‘hmm’ a few times then said I had to go to work. I felt pretty hurt because this woman has done so much to help me and is a wonderful wife and mother. They have the sweetest, brightest little five year old and quite frankly I’m secretly pleased that she’s rude to her witch of a grandmother. I bet she’s been whispering in her son’s ear and I don’t like the thought of an evil old woman trying to put an oar in their relationship because she doesn’t like people from Taipei or whatever. Of course I wouldn’t tell my friend what she said but I thought about raising the matter privately in a roundabout way in case she’s been harrassed over the past few weeks and wanted to talk about it. What would YOU do?