My Taiwanese girlfriend accept my marrying proposal, but I think it’s going to be hard, because she wants to marry me in the taiwanese style, with those expensive pre wedding pictures and a big wedding with many guests and expenses. Do foreigners use to marry a taiwanese spouse in this way? If not,What can I do to change her mind? I know it’s her all life dream to have this kind of wedding, but I don’t have such amount of money (at least 200.000 nt) and If I had it I’d prefer to use in something more useful.
What do you think???
Thanks
Ask her about how much money you can expect back in those little red envelopes.
I don’t think it will ‘end up’ costing you as much as you think right now.
Do you have to pay a dowry for her too?
My wedding was huge and in an expensive restaurant to cater for my wife’s father’s “face” as he is an ex government employee of high rank. It was all in all about 1 million nt, which may not be the most expensive, but certainly was in my books. Anyway at the end of the day after red envelopes we broke pretty much dead even, so yes, don’t expect to make much, but you shouldn’t loose much either. I think the only thing that it ended up costing us was about 35,000 for the pictures.
The most profitable way to hold your wedding might be a street side wedding under tents with caterers, the outlay should be minimal and the red envelopes should easily cover the costs with perhaps a little to spare. Don’t dispair at your girlfriends plans unless like my friend , you have to pay out for everything, but the parents take all the red envelopes WOW!
Don’t forget the cookies … costed us 80,000 NT$
The photos are nice but make sure you bring your own clothes. And you don’t have to get a 100. 10 or 20 is fine. Or how ever many you want.
What’s happening right now is a test that will determine what the rest of your life with this woman is going to be like. Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with and make sure your fiance is at least in spirit willing to meet you half way.
This is your marriage too, not just hers. If you don’t care much about the ceremony then just follow. But if you have your own ideas you better make them known. Juts because you’re in Taiwan doesn’t mean you have to give up your culture. Remember, our bride in white and groom in tux, and walk down the aisle, and real presents, is at least 40 years older than the “traditions” touted around this island.
Taiwanese style wedding= a lot of money.
I remember there was a couple they had their wedding expense within NT 50,000.
Because they use emails to informe friends and relatives their wedding date instead of the wedding cards.
They asked their friend to photo wedding pictures for them.
They picked up the cloth for costume their wedding dress.
They saved a lot of money from those things they can do by themselves.
But they still had a good and unforgetable Taiwanes wedding.
We’re starting to make wedding plans now. I have no problem with spending some money on the photos and the reception and such, but I’ve put my foot down on the cookies, which seem like an unbelievable waste of money.
I think you can find out the cookies that taste same but with different package and price.
Some of my friends prefer choosing the traditional Hakka cookie
“da bing”.Cheap and delicious.
Taiwanese style weddings are a great way to make money.
You take the pics. What’s the worry, they’re yours and it’s cheaper than renting, yeah RENTING, a church.
You buy cookies and all. Those things are like $200-300 nt each so those are cheap.
You do all that hoopla…work work work but not that expensive per say.
You do the reception, wedding banquet. OK, but you make your $$$ back with Red Envelops. 15 per table, 1600nt (plus) per person, 40 tables … you do the math.
You actually LOSEmoney buy going to wedding receptions/banquets. That’s why they try to b.s. the ceremony with good luck for you and all that jive. But they just want your Red Envelop. That’s a 1600 nt plus dinner right there. Rip off, huh???
Ok, get married and gong shi fa chai.
Don’t invite me tho.