small asian girl doing 110 pushups? I have to see it to believe it. If so, you might be the 2nd small Asian girl capable of doing that…
I used to be the skinny kid for most of my life… in college, I was athletic build, after that… with work, etc. I steadily started gaining weight. 160 to 180 in post-grad. these past few years crept up to 230ish… bit by bit. Was doing moderate exercise, but nothing in endurance.
Biggest thing I changed was diet and timing of meals (as someone said, breakfast!!!). the other thing was cutting out sugar. Not that I had a sweet tooth for things like sweets, cookies, snacks, but more the sugary drinks like juice, gatorade-type stuff. Now I drink mostly water that I mix with lemons. and lots of it. I recommend lots of tea too. as for food, i think we all know what is healthy in general… less fried food, less fatty food like butter, etc., too large a portion.
but the hardest step, as someone said, is breaking the initial habit with eating. And probably after many years of it, it’s very difficult, because it’s hard-wired, though not permanently. No one ever said breaking a habit was easy. You’ll feel hungry a lot if you do it right - it’s a fight you have to battle to win - no way around it. Drinking water to combat that helps. But if you stick to your guns, one day, you’ll wake up, have that mealsize you’ve stuck to, surprise, you’re more full than usual… and then after a few more weeks, you’ll notice you’re even less hungrier after meals. It’s one step at a time. and you’ll “feel” your stomach has shrunk. But that’s the kicker - there is no instant gratification.
If you can’t wait for longterm results, you’ve lost before you’ve begun. So get the right mindset from the beginning. And like someone said, treat yourself to 1 thing at the end of every week, but make it a reward for sticking to your goals for that week. I rewarded myself with a burger, pizza, beer, etc. and it helped motivate me and wean me off at the same time. In time, I decided I didn’t need a pizza as a reward, I might choose 1 popsicle. And in time, my craving for certain foods: sugar, fried food, etc. would almost disappear.
good luck. 400 pounds ain’t easy, but don’t view it from that perspective. View it from 1 step, 1 day at a time. Much easier to focus that way. That’s how I motivated myself with weightlifting too. I didn’t look at my friend who could benchpress x kgs and give up from day 1 because I could do only y kgs. I said I will start with y, and as long as I do y+10 every period, I will get to x. same with swimming. my 1st day, I couldn’t swim 2 laps without losing my breath. Now I swim 2 hours nonstop, 3000m in under an hour, I do 25m frontcrawl on 1 breath easily. It’s like that old fart Laozi says, a hundred mile journey begins with 1 step.
PS also make sure you have good sleep patterns. that also affects health, abnormal desire for food, etc.
