My 90-yr old grandmother is being moved to an assisted-care facility in Taipei next week. It breaks my heart to see this happen, but she requires 24hr care. She suffered a stroke a few years ago, so she cannot speak and requires a feeding tube. None of my relatives have the space to take her in, so they are being forced to take this option (albeit very reluctantly).
In the past, they’ve tried hiring Indonesian helpers for her in the past, but had very bad experiences with them. (One tried to suffocate her with a pillow, one would IM so much that she would forget to feed my grandmother or take her to use the bathroom, and the most recent one ran away and left her alone for 24hrs.) They are concerned about letting her live alone, since she’s received such poor treatment from the Indonesian helpers. None one lives close enough by to be able to check on her on a daily basis.
Can anyone tell me what is the best nursing home in Taiwan (if money is no object)? I know some nursing homes in the U.S. can be quite comfortable and nice. But, I hear that there is a long waiting list for nursing homes in Taiwan.
From my end, is there anything that I can do to make her stay more comfortable? I wanted to install a webcam and flat screen in her room, so that she can Skype with those of us who are overseas. But my relatives in Taiwan said that it would not be allowed. And the nurses would be too busy to help with the equipment.
I also wonder if I can hire someone (perhaps a tech savvy college student) to visit her twice a week, and maybe help assist with the Skyping. But again, it is very hard to do overseas. I wonder if you might have suggestions on how to find such a person.
I hate feeling completely impotent and unable to do anything to help her. Any advice would be appreciated. Are assisted-facilities as bad as they describe? Grandmother currently lives in a 6th floor walk-up with no AC, so being at this new place, means that she will be able to go outside (she could not before, since there is no elevator in her building) and people would be able to visit her more easily.