[quote=“ironlady”]Yes, I have discussed it with them in a non-threatening way. The defensive reactions I get suggest that it is all a bunch of hooey to show off their English. And IMHO it IS my business if these people are code-switching while they’re talking to ME.
Another annoying thing: the “you know, I haven’t spoken a single word of English to you throughout our entire interaction, we have just discussed international economics for 15 minutes with no problems, and yet you insist in speaking to me in your only-marginally-understandable, broken English while talking about commonplace topics” phenomenon.
Language choice is a complex phenomenon, but normally it is accepted that in situations where there is a power differential or where there is a need for one party to please the other – i.e., this include interactions in situations where it’s a service provider talking to a customer – the party who needs to please (the service provider) should take the customer’s cue as to which language to carry on using. I can forgive an initial try in English in response to a foreign face – although an attempt at Mandarin would be more palatable. But keeping on doggedly with the offensively poor English is unacceptable. [/quote]
Point one, I’ll give you, but letting people be themselves and accepting mildly irritating things as part life tends to make for much more pleasant interpersonal relations, IMHO , however…to each his/her own .
Point two…people need to use language to improve, and their motivations for doing it ought not be second guessed…to me, what may be marginally understandable to someone else is perfectly clear and through a few hundred interactions like this, the language will improve (after 6 months, I threw away the Chinese text book and learned Chinese through exactly this method, simply trying to communicate…eventually it happens).
Point three…whenever I see the prase “…it is accepted…” I usually follow by “yeah, sure…in the west.” “Offensively poor English.” Well, I have never heard “offensively poor English.” I’ve heard “poor English,” but I have never been offended by it. At one point, I spoke “poor Chinese” but through the patience of hundreds, maybe thousands, of people, fluency occurred. This is exactly the judgemental attitude that has had some of my closer friends say to me “Why is it that you are so much nicer than the rest of the foreigners in Taiwan? They get offended/angry so easily.” After thinking about it for a while, and realized that what they were getting at is that I let people be who they are, and don’t get miffed if someone does something a particular way that I think could be done better a different way . My way is not the only way, nor the best way in many cases…it is just, my way…I do admit to watching numerous things happen and having to consiously hold my eyebrow in position, perfectly even with the other one, because it REALLY wanted to rise somewhere near my hairline . But, I simply reminded myself that what I was observing was as valid a way of doing as the way that I would have done it .