{EDIT} The title of this thread was changed by the moderator to avoid making a blanket statement. Original title was They don’t want us to speak English. In reading some posts, perhaps I was being unfair to this kid. But she merely mirrored the same exact conversations that took place with High School Students, a Taxi Drivers, People on the street in general)
I’m at some art fair and contest with my kid. She’s competing and I’m wandering around. This school age girl walks up to me and says “Hello… ha ha ha ha” in a real silly tone of voice that you really get sick of after being here for over thirteen years.
I smile and answer politely “Hello” but in Chinese. I try not to speak English outside She does that stupid double take even though I’m like attached to three other children who look obviously mixed and a Taiwanese wife. Some Chinese is about to rub off somewhere. Ohh. I hate that double take… I also hate that clapping of the hands when they reallize I can understand and speak in Chinese. Heck, my accent and pronunciation is really pathetic… I should know much more than I do know!
She persists and asks me my name in English. I asked her name in Chinese. She answers “My name is Stephanie” I say in proper Chinese word order… Stephanie, hello.
I remarked in Chinese of course that her is very pretty.
She asked me in Chinese finally why don’t I speak English? I asked her what country are we in? She answered Taiwan. I asked her in Taiwan, what language we speak? She answered Chinese. And I told her that’s why I don’t want to speak English.
She starts to whine to her friend. … ohh I hate that pouty whine… But i guess it’s really popular because even grown up women do it in the TV Dramas here… She whine’s … He doesn’t speak English…
She had a change of tactic and decided to ask me in a nice way to speak a little English. So I relented and gave her a little English. I also introuced her to my Chidlren who mostly speak Chinese but understand and speak English when they need daddy to do something…
But as I feared… She was only really interested in saying the few stupid words or dialog in English then go back to her friends to giggle. Though my Chinese is still on the patheic side, I quite a few phrases under my belt. I could have had a decent conversation, perhaps teaching a few new words and even learning a few. But there was really no interest other than spitting a few English words to a foreigner.
Again…this in no way details my normal experience with friends and family but this situation happens quite often. I really don’t want to be like two out going teachers I’ve met when I first came here years ago. They would just say “Fuck You” to al who approach with that silly look.
What goes on in these locals’ head. When I was a boy… I was really annoying. I thought all places were romantic. I would listen to my shortwave radio of distant lands. Every time I ran into a “foreigner” i would attack them. Not really, I’d have a conversation with them. I’d try to suck their brain dry and learn about what it was like where they came from. These kids are not the least bit curious about what adventures we went through, languages we speak, foods we tried (unless it was Taiwanese Food) and all that…
And back to the orginal point… If I don’t say my few monkey English words and let them say theirs they will whine and just say I am no fun.