I AM talking some PSJ here, as most women I’ve met from TW are just people like people everywhere are people. And I’m NOT talking about any one person, just repetitions of behaviour I’ve felt were odd considering the circumstances.
The relationship timeline is commonly friendship/dating with potential for romance - and then, one little ‘slip’ = bye bye.
It’s true that reaction ‘slight’ could just be a convenient way of getting out of something someone doesn’t really want to get into, but that’s not the way these things have felt. It feels like suspicion and mistrust based on innocuous occurrence.
A couple of examples:
A meeting arranged at a bar we’ve been to before. 30 minutes late because a typhoon flood wiped out Hsitun Rd. thus a long detour. She’s waiting outside only to tell me that I obviously don’t care for her. (Han Solo moment) - “It’s not my fault!” 'Nuff said, snuffed out.
There was a girl who contacted me by email, and I remembered her as a friend of a friend. She contacted me because she wanted to meet, practice English and hang around. Couple of emails and I asked for a picture. The next email I got was a sad drone in Chinese and full of ellipses to the effect of, “If you don’t remember me, I guess we don’t have to meet.”
At my university in the US, I had a TWese girl stop seeing me because I called her Hui Jing instead of Hui Ling - once (No, not ‘in the act’).
I missed one phone call from someone here, and that was the end of that. There was some of the usual pleading involved (think John Belushi in the sewer with Carrie Fisher in the Blues Brothers) to no effect.
Again, it’s true that all of this may be due to my general hideousness, but I have not experienced this type of behaviour with women from other countries. It’s definite PSJ stuff, but I posted to see if others have experienced this sensitivity to ‘slight’ with TWese women.