Short Men Dating

Life Dating & Relationships
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I have been a busy bee (and almost a recluse) for many years (about 10) and haven’t approached a single woman all that time. I guess I didn’t have the confidence to do it, so I think I unconsciously avoided the problem by focusing on my work.

Now I feel I really need someone in my life. I read an article on dating recently and one guy complained that he never gets a look back from women he looks at in public. That made me realize that I never get that either, even though I often look at them! Until now, I thought that women never look back at men in public, so reading that started to make me worried!

The thing is, I am very short. I am a five foot five, slim and not bad looking, but my body, in all proportion is a bit smaller than the average western white male. So that’s probably why women don’t look back at me. Do I stand a better chance in Taiwan?

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I don’t think the average man meets women by looking at them on the street. I wouldn’t get worked up over that.

There are many variables of course, but I think it’s safe to say your height will be less of a limiting factor here, potentially much less.

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It doesn’t matter. Low confidence is close to the worst thing though. Look at Taiwanese guys, they are mostly very nerdy, and the girls don’t particularly care. Girls are nerdy too.

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Do you live in Taiwan already, or thinking of emigrating here for, um, mating purposes?

Five foot five is about average for men here.

Anyway, noamchomsky hit the nail on the head: low confidence is the worst. If you don’t think you’re attractive (physically or otherwise), damn sure nobody else will. You don’t have to strut, but you need to have some faith in yourself.

If you do decide to come here, sign up with a gym, and go there, religiously, four times a week. Eat like a pig (not difficult in Taiwan). You’ll grow horizontally if not vertically, and that’s fine. Looking good does a lot for one’s confidence.

And incidentally, I don’t think a woman has ever looked back at me, either, but possibly that’s because I never bothered checking. I don’t recall that ever being a problem.

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You should try looking at men

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:hand: Don’t worry about your height; you’re tall enough.

I also think you’d do better over here where people are short.

There’s a lot you can do to attract the ladies’ eyes. There are plenty of men your height that have women falling all over them. Look at Tom Cruise… Of course, he’s got money, fame, good looks and spirituality going for him…

But look at Dave Hill. He wasn’t particularly attractive or tall, and he had so many girls knockin’ on his door that he had to move. Dave had an exotic accent, his own style, and he had confidence. You could have the same. :neutral:

Promise me you’ll watch the first minute and ten seconds of this video.

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Can’t scientists just use growth rings, like they do on tall men?

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just put yourself out there and good things will happen.

it is always the same on these boards, people moaning about work, and social life and whatever else, but not willing to truly give it a go. if you go for it, it will almost always yield a net positive.

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find one online , it can lead to marriage, its happening to me

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The answer must be yes you stand a better chance in Taiwan. It seems every man stands a better chance in Taiwan, almost!

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Platform shoes and a poofy perm–that’s the ticket!

But Brad Pitt has a far more sensible religion than Tom Cruise.

(“What religion is Brad Pitt?” you ask?)

I have no idea…but it would have to be, wouldn’t it?

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One of the few men i have met in life who have actually made me say “wow, he is so man!”* Was under five feet six. He was prob five two. Yes, he drove an escalade, to make up for something, or because he could? That is besides the point. He was the most charismatic speaker i had the pleasure of hearing speak, his voice, tone, tempo, etc was ear porn. He was the presi-fucking-dent of a private national organization in a multi billion dollar industry. He was married with a lovely family. Ladies flirted with him, men respected him. Colleagues enjoyed working under him. He treated everyone with respect, was polite, cared about staff. I am sure he had days when he woke up wishing he had grown an inch overnight, but he never showed lack of confidence. He was tres sexy.

So yes, go out there and exude your appeal. Walk and think tall. I dated men under five six. I never felt they were shorter, because they never mentioned it. I dont look at the physical, so dont date someone who would reject you on that basis. Have pride and standards just like everyone else.

*the other have been obviously my baby daddy, my avatar, and a select few. Gotta give them props too, but they are not under five six.

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Stay sweet and genuine. You will be fine!!!:slight_smile:

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Look, as we say in Spanish, there is always a matching mended sock for a shoe with a hole. That means that in spite of what you see as a disadvantage, there is someone out there who sees it as an attractive point.

For example, I just came back for the US. Oh, guys there look very nice, but heck, are they tall compared to me. Most tower about twice my height. It is not a pleasant sight. Please picture Icon as someone whose feet dangle on metro seats like a kid’s.

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[quote=“headhonchoII”]The answer must be yes you stand a better chance in Taiwan. It seems every man stands a better chance in Taiwan,

almost![/quote]

Unless you’re not into Asian girls apparently…

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:laughing: I’m guessing that actually sounds funnier in English than it does in Spanish.

:roflmao: And yet, according to previous posts, Icon is somewhat … top heavy, so it’s probably a good thing you have a low centre of gravity.

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I agree with finley. Improve yourself physically. It will have a great impact on your confidence. Self-improvement in general is a great way to make yourself happy, and happiness is very attractive to others.

Perhaps a story from Uncle Tomas’ past will help:

When I was 22, I got married. Had two kids, lived a fairly happy life, advanced my career, bought a little house, etc. When I was 29, I came home from work one night to find my wife and children gone, and a note on the kitchen counter telling me my marriage was over.

After reeling around for a few weeks in a panic, I took stock of myself. I was overweight and lonely, felt worthless because the person who knew me best in the world told me I was worthless and sued me for divorce. I was direction-less, didn’t know what to do with myself now that my family was gone. I had a gut feeling that getting in shape would help me regain some confidence, and I knew that at some point I would want to meet women again, so I joined a gym and went 4-5 nights a week after work, running and lifting off my fear, anxiety, and anger. I picked up golf and went hiking in the mountains every weekend. Within six months, I had dropped 35 pounds of fat, shrunk my waistline by 5 inches, dropped my body fat down to 12%, was muscular and cut. I had to replace my wardrobe. I wasn’t ready for women just yet, but I was starting to get attention from women. There seemed to be a correlation between the level of confidence I was feeling at the time and the number of women who gave me a long glance.

I felt so good about myself that I kept going with the self-improvement. I read books about fatherhood to improve myself as a dad; learned to be a better sales manager through courses and reading and ended up getting promoted; learned to play guitar; started writing and submitting stories, articles, and poems for publication; figured out how to make peace with my ex-wife; did community service work. I had lost 90% of my friends once I became single and later left my church, but all of this activity resulted in the opportunity to make some good new friends.

Once I was ready to meet some good women, the only thing to figure out was how to meet them in ways that were low pressure for both of us but successful. I figured out, through watching a lot of my friends try to meet people and doing some experimenting, that the best way to do it is to not need to meet anyone, but to just want to. I learned that emotionally healthy women are turned off my men who need to meet them. Desire them? That’s attractive. Need them? Not attractive. So if I went into a social situation, I would smile if I felt like it, if it was natural and not forced. I never used lines. I just introduced myself with a “Hi, I’m Tomas,” and asked questions and listened, making connections if we had things in common. If the lady I said hello to didn’t respond, I’d just smile and say: “Have a nice night,” and let it roll off my back. Pretty soon, I was drowning in phone numbers, some of which I asked for, naturally, and some of which were offered. I ended up getting together with a really pretty, very smart, very passionate businesswoman. We later broke up amicably and, after getting to know quite a few new people, I ended up with an absolute dream girl, someone who was in the public eye, on camera, for her job. Later, there were more amazing women who I had the pleasure of being with for a time. I moved to Taiwan and the same pattern repeated itself, until I got tired of serial monogamy and shortly thereafter, met my lovely wife. That was eight years ago, been happily married for almost seven years now.

I’m not short. I’m 188cm tall. But if I was short I think the same approach I took would have worked out well. When I met my wife, I was losing my hair pretty fast. It never bothered me. I just kept being a confident, health-conscious, curious person and I ended up with the woman of my dreams.

I’m not saying you need to rebuild yourself. You could decide today that you’re good enough, start smiling and saying hello to people in natural ways, and you’d instantly become more attractive. But if you can’t get to that level of confidence without making some changes, maybe my story will be helpful to you. One thing that I think is true for most high-quality women: They are attracted to men who are in love with life, who do things, meet people, are curious and interested in things. A person who is always on some program of confident, passionate learning or self-improvement is generally attractive to well-adjusted people.

Good luck!

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Be confident in yourself—confidence is attractive and sexy. However don’t be conceited.

Now, go here (Lovesystem.com) and learn how to play the game with confidence and you’ll be
swimming in poon in no time. You can even hire a dating coach through that company or meet new friends
to help you get on the right track. It will help you. Trust me.

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If you’re a bit self-conscious about your height you can make up for it in other areas. Maybe talk a bit more loudly to assert yourself and be really meticulous about things, focus on the details. A little bit of extra aggression doesn’t hurt either, some people are just pussies right?

It’s important to always get the last word in and, if you’re around taller people, you can always belittle them, cut them down to size a bit.

I had a couple bosses who were 5’5" and 5’6" and they were quite wealthy men with happy (looking) wives, it’s no problem.

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I’ve heard the experiences of a lot of guys and girls meeting their other half doing volunteer work, also check Okcupid dot com, is free and seems to be legit. At the end you height or complexion is not as important as the size of your penis :liar: .