bismarck: I actually don’t care if someone insults me or not (I wasn’t insinuating that I wanted divea cautioned because I’m actually in favour of free speech and the internet being a bit of a free for all). I was just getting into a semantic point. Anyway, I’m willing to drop that point if it’s getting too heated.
Petrichor: When mentioning nerds being strung along, you’ll also note that I said the nerd was being dishonest with himself (and is ultimately to blame for being too weak to walk away when he’s clearly not getting what he wants). I actually don’t really care about the nerd who won’t help himself. I was merely holding a mirror up to the meme about womanising men taking advantage of women and saying there’s a counterpart to that.
BigJohn: This is where I have a problem with your argument though. Are women (or at least this one) indeed the fairer sex and need to be wrapped in cotton wool? At what point do we say that adults are adults and so entitled to make certain decisions, be it with respect to relationships, handling money, voting or anything else, but in being so empowered, must also accept responsibility for the outcomes (even if unintended, though I think the probable outcome was extremely certain based upon how explicit I had been about my intentions) of their actions? If I want to get in a boxing ring and I am made aware of the risks involved and what may or may not happen, to what extent do I have a right to complain if the other guy punches me on the nose? To what extent do I have a right to pick up a stool and hit him because I couldn’t attain my objective within the rules? This is why I have a problem with how the woman reacted. It’s not that she didn’t get what she wanted. It’s not that she was upset by that. It’s not even that she tried to change the rules of the game afterwards. I realise people will try all of those things on, and to some extent, I say, “game on!” It’s that I called her on that and she still went crazy. Are you saying that this woman wasn’t capable of giving informed consent? Are you saying that it’s reasonable for her to change the rules of the game and that it’s not reasonable for me to request that we adhere to the original rules that we both agreed upon?
I actually don’t think people can be relied upon to behave rationally a lot of the time, but how does that gel with applied philosophy or applied economics on a daily basis? Surely that would imply either a laissez faire free for all or the need for some sort of benevolent dictator or oligarchy, because obviously, suffrage doesn’t work unless people have to bear responsibility for their actions, yet I’d be pretty sure that a lot of people would have real objections to that. This is my major problem with how most people think though: they hobble together some kind of grab bag of whatever world views/personal ethics/political philosophies suit them at the time (rather than thinking through a whole bunch of seemingly disparate issues and connecting a thread) and there’s rarely any kind of internal consistency to that. That’s why, despite he and I more often than not having diametrically opposed views on ethics, metaphysics and so on, Fortigurn is perhaps my favourite poster at this site. If nothing else, he has a well thought out, highly consistent way of thinking. As I mention below, steelersman is also another person I dig for his process, rather than his outcome.
Gao Bohan: Is your objection specifically that I called the/a woman a silly bitch (though not at the time – at the time I stated my case rather calmly and then kind of scratched my head and shrugged my shoulders about it) or is it my choice of words? For instance, if I had called a man a stupid bastard, would you find that objectionable?
steelersman: I know you and I lock horns on one particular issue, but even on that, I do see where you’re coming from and appreciate your process, even if not your outcome.