Is it common to see Tainan girls marrying Caucasian guys? I heard girls from Tainan are very traditional, and are very unlikely to marry a white guy. Correct me if I’m wrong.
Usually it’s the parents who are conservative…whether or not the daughters obey is another story…
Why are you rushing into marriage? You haven’t even started dating them yet!
Yes, Tainanites are much more traditional than most other people in Taiwan, this much is true.
First of all, I’m an Asian guy. 
I have a good friend from Tainan (I first met her in 2001), and we dated last December. Then we went our own separate ways. Since then, she has been consistently dating another Asian guy (last time I remembered seeing them together was March of this year).
I have no problem with this since she is just a friend, but one whom I have a high degree of romantic interest in. Yet I would like to wish her success and happiness in the dating arena.
Last Friday evening I was walking towards the entrance of a store to get some tea. All of a sudden, I saw an Asian girl and a white guy walk towards the entrance at the same time, and it was her! My heart started beating instantly. She looked so beautiful as always, and very happy.
He was pushing her towards the store in a playful manner, and she was laughing and saying “Stop! stop!” in a lighthearted way. She and I pretended not to see each other. I didn’t want to embarrass her in front of the guy, and she didn’t want to divert attention to me during those moments, which is perfectly understandable.
All three of us arrived at the entrance at the exact same time. Then the guy said to her “Just because you’re engaged to me doesn’t mean…” This whole thing was a total coincidence (none of this was planned).
I felt kind of sad when I heard those words, then went inside to wait in line to get some tea. However I felt a little depressed and decided to leave instead.
In a way I feel happy for her, but also quite sad. Then I went home and thought to myself “Could that guy be joking?” It’s highly unusual that she would be engaged in less than one year. She’s quite mature and responsible, and coming from a town like Tainan, I find this whole thing last Friday very strange.
But I do not want to put any wishful thinking in my head. Therefore I am prepared to accept the bad news should it turn out to be true, and I wish her the best of luck in her future endeavors. She is a real sweetie and lights up anyone’s day with that great, warm smile.
Well, I guess it is time to let fate dictate its course.
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Which sounds to me like, blah blah blah can’t believe she is dating a white guy blah blah blah feel sad for her.
Sounds like she got here a while back.
Didn’t she recognize you at the door??
sorry, didn’t catch that…
reztrop -
Your post is very considerate and shows a great amount of consideration for your friend.
Tainan is a more ‘conservative’ area - but each person will decide for theirself.
If you should runinto your friend again it sounds like you would be perfectly fine speaking to her and wishing her well.
If she mentions her engagement, then you will have your answer.
If she is with her friend, then by all means say hello ans ask her if she has anything new in her life.
Either way you should find the answer you are looking for.
Good luck.
It’s entirely possible that she’s engaged to him.
If so, it is quite possibly because her family is traditional and there is a lot of pressure on her to be engaged, rather than just appearing to be having a casual relationship with this foreigner. What possibly matters most for her parents is saving as much face as possible with the neighbours.
Sounds more to me like blah blah blah I’m upset because the girl I’m infatuated with chose someone else blah blah blah.
I’ve lived in Tainan for three years and in that time I’ve known many many Taiwanese girls who are married to foreigners. All of them are what could be called conservative Tainanese girls, and although some of them had problems with their families initially, the families accepted the foreign husband after the marriage. In fact, most never had any problems with the families. Also, all the girls I’ve dated here have also never had this problem. My first girlfriend here lives in Kaohsuing and her family is very conservative. They never had a problem with me, always invited me to family gatherings like Chinese New Year and always asked why I wasn’t with her if she went alone. A year and a half after the relationship, we’re still very good friends, see each other often and her family still asks about me…
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First of all, it’s not an infatuation. We’ve known each other for 5 years, and we’re pretty good friends. I’m happy for her, but just sad that our friendship would have to come to an end after marriage.
Usually when a girl gets married, her friendships with other guys end. Same applies to guys. If a guy continued his friendships with other girls even after marriage, what would the wife say?
Contrary to the original reply, that wasn’t supposed to be a negative thing. I’m sure most of us know what it’s like to love someone without reciprocation at some point, whether romantically or otherwise. I understand what you’re feeling. Take care of yourself.
First of all, it’s not an infatuation. We’ve known each other for 5 years, and we’re pretty good friends. I’m happy for her, but just sad that our friendship would have to come to an end after marriage.
Usually when a girl gets married, her friendships with other guys end. Same applies to guys. If a guy continued his friendships with other girls even after marriage, what would the wife say?[/quote]
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well, coming to an end, so let it be. It’s more just for you to speak it out, not much for us to say if any.
light friendship can still exist, and will be, but as close as back in the days, hum, not easy.
Hmmm…interesting observation that it’s Tainan we’re talking about.
Lots of sexy girls here who seem to be available. I’ve been going out with a Tainan girl for 18 months and she’s not conservative but but her parents are traditional. Actually, it took almost 18 months to get an invite to her folks’ place and now they seem to like me.
I dunno if it’s Tainan girls you’re talking about or just girls-who-don’t-live-in-Taipei that you’re talking about. But yeah, more than a few gals here are married to foreigners.
As far as the girl who got away from you? Experience tells me, my friend, that you blew your chance and now you have to live with it. It’s happened to the best of us.
I’ll never forget a gorgeous girl I had a huge crush on in high school who, much later, lamented to a friend why I never made a move on her. The problem was we became too close of friends for any romance. :loco:
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