Is this some kind of euphemism 
At least 5 people from my team did it, including me.
If the in-laws are fine with it then sure.
Those tins are worth money. Guys can take enough of it to a junk yard and get paid money for it. Itās not much but restaurants throw them out and old folks collect them.
The hopes is that if both people shared the cost of the house, it will count towards owning the house together.
Do they get melted down, or simply repainted with a new kitsch design for a new wedding?
Theyāre taken to steel Mills and made into rebars, I beams, or whatever. Itās a ton of work to strip and repaint them.
Scrap steel pays 10nt per kg or thereabouts.
A microwave is worth about 200 in scrap metal value.
Iām concerned about the status of a gift before the marital property estate is formed. After marriage, the couples payments to the house should be community property so long as no one is contributing from separate property. Could be a bit tricky depending on the facts. It probably works fine in most cases.
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What does it have to do with the in-laws? The in-laws want to have the man buy the house why should they have any say whose name it is in?
If he is buying the house he should do so before they get married.
Hopefully just to get the first time buyer mortgage rate
My MIL tried to push these āobligationsā to me when I proposed. I said I would accept Taiwanese traditions if she accepted my traditions too, who is only fair.
When she learned that my countryās tradition includes the brideās family paying for the whole wedding ceremony, she changed her tone to something like āwhat matters is that you love each other, so no need to stuck to traditions, right? ā
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There are marriage customs everywhere. Some cultures ask for horses, goats, or pigs for the parents to feel like the marriage is taken seriously. If you managed to find a partner whose family isnāt hung up on traditions that you donāt agree with, good for you. However, thatās not the norm, and donāt expect everyone else to get the same result just by demanding it.
The goal is hopefully to just get married while pissing off as little people as possible. Of course, sometimes you canāt please everyone, but at least you canāt piss off your partner too much.
Some people donāt want to upset their parents too much throughout the process of getting married because they feel itās the last requests they get as a daughter.
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When my daughter will marry I will demand a flock of camels just to mess with the future SIL. 
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Doesnāt it broadly go whatās yours is yours before the marriage, itās after the marriage that it becomes shared.
Different than many western countries anyway .
The jokeās on you if your SIL really delivers that flock of camels.
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Iām thinking of asking for some of those Ekselence Ice Cream bars you are hoarding in Nantou.
Guy
Everything will be Aladeen.
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