wants to have one-on-one together time with me all the time.
wants to be present in all of my activities.
must have my entire attention all the time, not matter where we are or who we’re with.
wants to know my exact whereabouts at any given point.
must see me (or talk on the phone for > 1hr) at least 4 times a week.
dislikes letting me hang out with my friends.
dislikes letting me hang out with my female friends.
dislikes most if not all of the other female species around me.
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In my short time on forumosa, this term came up many-a-times describing tw women. But what is considered clingy anyway? Just how clingy is “too clingy”?
In my opinion, some of these behaviors are clearly clingy while others are not. I guess you can select all of which you consider to be “too clingy” behavior.
As for “must see me (or talk on the phone for > 1hr) at least 4 times a week.”, this is ambiguous.
“Must see me at least 4 times a week” is not necessarily clingy, but “must talk on the phone for > 1hr at least 4 times a week” is clingy, in my estimation.
I can’t bear talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes, let alone an hour. Ugh!!
I agree 100%, in Europe and the US I have a few friends that more or less “smothered” their girlfriends into leaving them, I haven’t been in Taiwan long enough to form an opinion about people here but I’m assuming that things are the same.
I agree 100%, in Europe and the US I have a few friends that more or less “smothered” their girlfriends into leaving them, I haven’t been in Taiwan long enough to form an opinion about people here but I’m assuming that things are the same.[/quote]
Well, if guys are calling you clingy, they either aren’t very interested in you or they are insecure whackjobs with control issues, provided of course that you aren’t calling him about stupid shit all the time.
IMO, men are fairly likely to freak out about me seeing the male friends I have, and ask what I’m doing on a moment to moment basis than the other way around. Being very independent is a different marker in women than in men. A lot of guys pay lip service to liking ‘independent women’, but if it comes down to the fact that you don’t need them for anything, most start being weird. I dunno, I always think ‘I don’t need you, I just really really like you’ was far nicer than ‘My tiny world will fall apart without a man, any man, in it’.
As a proud Canadian, I am honoured to share my viewpoint!
In the developed world, women generally have a higher status than men in the realm of dating. They are the “objects of desire” and can chose their mates. Thus, it is normal for many men to fear the loss of their mate as there is a lot of competition.
In Taiwan, most male WGR have a huge variety of choices in terms of mating, so the females become more insecure.
In the end, it isn’t about being male or female: it’s about being secure.
Insecure people become more clingy. Confident people take it easy.