So smacking your kid is apparently considered child abuse now?
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And verbal discipline.
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Oh no! Not THAT!
Would you consider smacking your wife domestic battery? If so, why would it be more acceptable to smack a kid who canāt defend itself versus your wife who stands a far better chance?
The truth is that when you discipline using violence youāre really teaching that they can and should use violence to solve big problems. It makes the use of force legitimate when it really shouldnāt be. Youāre also teaching them that they should comply in order to avoid punishment rather than because itās the right or proper thing to do.
Thereās better more effective ways of teaching your children. Using force just seems easier in the moment though which is why some people do it. Thereās also the element of past victims hashing out the same punishment that they got because they āturned out fineā which is never really true. Even if it is, are we really striving for ājust fineā for our children? Or are trying to give them a better life and raise them to eventually be better than we turned out?
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Yes, because itās not my place to discipline my wife. What legitimate reason would I have for punishing her? (Except in bedā¦)
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Wu (23) said he had not known any better because he received the same kind of physical abuse when he was growing up.
Somehow I donāt think he was beat up and paralyzed by his parents as a 12-month old infant in 2001. I call BS.
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building long lasting discipline canāt be achieved through violence or fear but through purpose. Even the Marines knew not to use physical violence against recruits (at least not for a while). And thatās a life or death situation when you get right down to it. Far more dire circumstances if you ask me. And even then they donāt strike you.
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What a horrible thing to do to a child. Life is not fair. You are born to unqualified parents and you are at the mercy of their emotions. What parents often not realize is that children canāt help themselves. Brain is not developed yet to understand things and act rationally in a lot of situations. You canāt fix that by punishment or threats. Need to help them get through the tantrums and the phases where they just try to test the limits and challenge their parents. The strange thing about life is that the people who are the least qualified and prepared for having children are usually the ones who have the most. The poor and uneducated, those who struggle to make a living, those who never received love and a good education themselves. I wonder if that is by design or a flaw in the system that is human life.
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this.