My situation is a little unique. I’ve got four, the eldest, my tween, goes to school in the US and is in the care of family; the three younger ones are here and range in age from 10 months to seven years. I’ve had a live in since September and before we hired her, we had a part time person for about 3 months.
Spack, I’ve been to the movies once in four+ years but that’s okay since I like being able to pause the video and run to the kitchen or bathroom anyway, .
Now that we have a live in and I do part time work from home, I can’t say that we’re the only ones raising our children. I count on my nanny a great deal but I have to say that having time away from my kids does a lot to keep me sane. There was a time when I felt like I’d completely lost myself to being a wife and mother. Now, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I can work from home and feel like I’m contributing something financially, even if it’s not as much as my husband does, and I have the flexibility to go to the park, the zoo, or just not work at all. Especially nice when someone is sick.
To be honest, when my husband was telling me to start looking for help as we were expecting the birth of our fourth (and he works a lot), I was being very stubborn about wanting to do everything myself. It took one meltdown at 7pm, with the newborn in the sling, first grader in the tub, and 2 year old crying for my attention, with homework and stories and bedtime and vacuuming and dishes to deal with (while dear husband was at work and not expected to return until 10pm) for me to realize that another set of hands might not be such a bad thing after all.
Everyone’s situation is different though, and I truly admire my friends who work full time jobs and still manage to raise intelligent, loving, confident children.