For parents of young child/ren, who is looking after your child/children?
- Myself or my spouse/partner 24/7
- A relative during work days, but us after work/weekends
- A nanny during work days, but us after work/weekends
- Day care/school/etc during the day, but us after work/weekends
- A relative/nanny during the week, but us on weekends only
- Other, please explain
My wife and I are saving up for a house, so we decided for her to return to work 9 weeks after our daughter was born rather than stay home with her. Fortunately, we found a woman who seems to be a good nanny (my wife’s coworker’s mother), so I drop the baby off before work and pick her up after.
While it seems to be working just fine, I feel pretty crappy about the deal. After all, the kid (now 3 months old) is with the nanny at least 10 hours a day – that is, almost half of her life is being spent in the care of a total stranger rather than her parents. If the early years are the formative years, then some lady I don’t really know is forming my child. Fortunately, my boss theoretically allows us to work out of the home, though I haven’t yet availed myself of the opportunity, but one of these days I intend to start doing so in order to spend more time with my child, even if it means mostly changing diapers and feeding bottles at this point.
How about you (if you have an infant or small child)? Is someone else raising your child?