Iāve noticed that Asian people (not only Taiwanese but including Taiwanese) talk like they have grown up with only their momā¦ and barely mention their dad or their love towards dad.
Some even clearly say that they prefer their mom rather than their dad.
I know all the stuff about daddy coming back home late everyday etc., but is it a reason to feel closer to mom?
Unless Asian daddies are really terrible, I donāt see any reason to give more love to mommy rather than daddy.
Confucian approach to childrearing, I would presume. The father is distant on purpose. Itās mentioned in the Analects. Of course, this leads to a peculiarly Asian version of daddy issues.
Itās going to be different for different people, especially across socio-economic divides. My wife speaks very highly of her father and doesnāt talk about her mom much. They both worked when she was growing up but she ended up being closer with her dad for whatever reason.
Itās not part of the culture in this part of the world for parents or children to verbally express their love for each other. They surely do have such familial love, but itās rare for it to be verbally expressed.
I know some fathers who are as overworked as Asian fathers, who come back home late as Asian fathers doā¦ and who do play a big role in their kidsālife.
If you truly want to spend time or share moments with your kids, believe me youāre always gonna find some free moments in your weekly schedule.
By the way, even the President of the US finds time to spend with his daughters.
Momās side is quite judgemental, and we disagree / cannot relate on issues that are
important to me. I donāt know Dadās side as well but theyāve usually been nice to me.
bq) I resemble Dad more but he died when I was 18, and though I wonāt allow myself
to forget all he did for us, as I grow older he seems to increasingly fade into the past.
Bottom line, I prefer Dadās side of the family, as we share more of the same interests.
[quote=āColoradosā]Hi
Today, another unusual question
Iāve noticed that Asian people (not only Taiwanese but including Taiwanese) talk like they have grown up with only their momā¦ and barely mention their dad or their love towards dad.
Some even clearly say that they prefer their mom rather than their dad.
I know all the stuff about daddy coming back home late everyday etc., but is it a reason to feel closer to mom?
Unless Asian daddies are really terrible, I donāt see any reason to give more love to mommy rather than daddy.[/quote]
Because only my mother raised us three kids.
my irresponsible father cheated on my mom and abandon us.
my irresponsible father cheated on my mom and abandon us.[/quote]
Hmmmā¦I think thatās why I like my mom better too (except as far as we know my dad didnāt cheat. Oh and it was definitely my mom that left his ass, but whoās keeping track?)
