Alright. I see what it is now.
This is likely my last post here (honestly I have spent more minutes than I’m willing to on this corner of the internet).
Andrew, with my job being my job, and my city being one of the world’s most progressive capitals, I have gotten to be in rooms with some of the most prominent feminists/activists. I don’t spend much time on the controversial parts of the internet anyway, so most of what I’m in touch with are predominantly real life people that I know. So, within my peripherals, you were the one person I can currently think of who’s got their head stuck this way. Pretty much all men around here on my part of the globe don’t have the problems you are voicing now. Why? Well, because I haven’t met a single true feminist/activist who doesn’t consider innocent men allies. Which leads to the root of the issue for you regarding your original post: Who is gaslighting you?
I assure you that person is a douchenozzle, and you should just walk away and not care if they spew their stupid mouths because no reasonable, educated person would listen. Don’t let that person win.
As the saying goes, “if you go looking for trouble (in your case, gaslighting), you’ll find it.” Don’t go and get yourself upset like this again. So here’s my advice (which I’ve also told @politbureau):