[quote=“finley”][quote=“Petrichor”]
You can pretend otherwise, but men and women do look at the world in different ways, and I think teasing each other about it is better than getting militant about it, because that’s when people stop talking, stop trying to understand, and start getting resentful instead. Everyone loses. Just my observation [/quote][/quote]
Who’s getting militant?? :s Anyway, the language we use does hugely affect the way we see things and how we interact. As soon as you start using terms like ‘you always…’ ‘you never…’, sweeping generalisations about another person, you’re on a loser. It’s a dead end street. So debating relationship and dating issues in terms of ‘all women do this’ or ‘all men are like that’ is pointless. It seems to me most people on this forum are pretty interesting otherwise, so I guess it kind of irks me. FWIW I thought you hit the nail on the head with this
It’s been mentioned before - a lot of guys who come to Taiwan suddenly find they’re getting more attention that they did at home, and it goes to their head (or whatever). The ones who will only be here for a year or two, and have NO plans to stay (that is, the ones who don’t really like being here and are just earning some pocket money) want some temporary company - who can blame them? - but perhaps they don’t make that clear enough to the girls concerned, or perhaps the girls think they can “change their minds”. Either way, it’s in the nature of an expat population that people (ahem) come and go. But that leaves a bad impression, and those of who actually live here get tarred with the same brush.
As to differences between men and women, the differences between two individuals of one sex are far greater than the differences between the sexes generally. You can’t explain an individual’s behaviour in terms of their sex, nor extrapolate from one person’s behaviour to their sex generally.
I agree men and women have always teased each other and perhaps they always will. The problem with teasing is that the person who defines it as such is mostly the person doing it, not the person on the other end. To the person on the other end teasing can be bullying, harrassment, prejudice, discrimination, whatever. Where’s the line where it stops being teasing and starts being something else? It depends on which side you’re sitting. Over the decades all minority groups have been ‘teased’ and told they should lighten up - don’t take those Paki jokes so seriously, we’re only having a laugh! When I read a comment starting ‘women are all…’ I don’t think, oh that guy’s such a tease! I think, what a boring tosser, here we go again. When you read ‘men are all…’ do you think - wow, I bet there’s really funny comment coming up!? There seem to have been plenty of men on this thread objecting to generalisations being made about foreign men in Taiwan.