[quote=āFreeciaā]Thank you for your thoughts, I really appreciate someone, especially from a manās perspective, to not consider me a āsell outā or a racist.
I take it that my friend feels very bitter about the recent phenomena that Caucasian men seem to āgetā all the Asian girls. While I do start to see a lot of that happening especially with the combination of Caucasian men and Asian women as oppose to the rare cases of Asian men and Caucasian women, I really feel that thereās a good reason behind it. I feel that women, especially Asian women, are starting to feel the same way I feel. There are certain expectations that Asian women were to fulfill from their partnerās point of view, and those expectations sometimes arenāt what Asian women want. Having a long history of oppression, I feel that Asian women are finally beginning to realize their Asian men probably wonāt change any time soon, and therefore, they look for alternative. Perhaps, some of them just want someone different, and have experiences of something new. Perhaps, the idea of being weaklings who were suppose listen to everything their men said just donāt sit well anymore. Whatever the reason it may be, I feel that Asian women are definetely more daring to persue what they want, rather than what their parents, relatives, siblings, partners tell them they want. Of course, this is not to say that all Asian men are oppressive to their women, but I think itās hard to yank the deep rooted male surpremacy belief if this was what men ever see and learn since they were young.
The irony with my eurasian friend is that, heās the very product of such relationship. His dadās Caucasian, and his momās Chinese. Yet, he sits there complaining how Asian women should stop looking only for Caucasian men, as there are many qualified, decent Asian men out there as well. Due to these girlsā supposed āracial profilingā, the Asian men were given bad names and therefore, have tough time finding mates. āTo each of their ownā was what I had in my mind. Some men may find me attractive, some men find me repulsive. Some men may like my personality, some may find me extremely obnoxious. I donāt understand how it is fair to accuse the Asian girls for looking for who they want, no matter what the reason is? Again, this may be something deep rooted in Asian menās minds as their women belong ONLY to them. When the women start looking for someone outside of that racial or cultural group, these women are all of a sudden, sell outs.
It is true that I shouldnāt have to justified my relationship to anyone, especially to someone whom I believe to be narrowminded such as my friend. I never had problems with people judging me without knowing me however, at the same time, I feel like thereās severe misundersatnding the general public have for interracial relationships that I feel like I have to defend. Just because, Iām in one, and itās wonderful.[/quote]
Another irony here is that if you have any sons, they too will be half Asian and as a result of widespread negative generalizations about Asian men (that you as an individual justify), may find themselves in the same predicament as your bitter Eurasian friend.
White men married to or in relationships with Asian women might also want to consider this before they condone negative comments about Asian guys. Their sons will also be Asian men someday.