I am being stalked by a crazy xiao jie. I dont’ really want to get into all the details but she is calling my home late at night and uttering threats. Can I call the police and ask them to intervene or get a restraining order placed on her?
Come on!!! Tell us the whole story boyo 
Sorry I don’t want to get into a whole story about it. What I really need is some answers on how the police will handle my complaint and acquiring a restraining order. Thank you.
Seriously, if youo have nod had the one-eyed jack up renai rd, then just find out where she stays, and go visit her parents. Tell them what their girl is up to…
If you have had sex with her (which is what I believe, as she’s muttering threats and the like), then start to call her back, tell her that you love her, and rthat you really need sex, esp. SM, anal sex, and bed food fights…
The objective is to scare her off…
What I usually do when hunted is to tell them about all their weaknesses on the phone, email, msn messenger, tell them that their behavior is over the top, and that they need professional help.
After a few earfuls, they usually give up.
If the Taiwanese female in question is a decent girl, then I would be decent as well, no need to be nasty. But then… you would never get into such a weird situation, if you both behaved as adults.
The more you give, the more you receive. you will have to tell us the situations and circumstances if you want real advice.
Why don’t you just take your phone off the hook at night?
I notice that its the same bloodthirsty guys that were quick to reply on my thread when i was having a bit of trouble last year.
To the op- don’t expect any advice from these guys.
I think the whole stalker issue depends on whether or not the OP slept with the girl.
I was stalked once by a woman in Glolal Village when I worked there. I did NOT sleep with her. She followed me home on a scooter nearly running me down. Attended every and I mean every class I taught, after she quit her job to …attend my classes. She forced, and I mean FORCED her way into a taxi until I got out begging a policeman to help keep her away from me.
It was nasty and awful and the woman clearly need some counsellling.
What did I do? I quit teaching at Global. And moved.
What the other posters want to know is was it partially your fault? take it in stride…this is like hazing. 
You haven’t said anything about where your located (Taibei is probably better than other places as far as contacting authorities is concerned). Of course you can call the police, but I don’t know what they’ll do for you (I haven’t heard of restraining orders as of yet).
Do what I tell all of my friends (usually jokingly). Cut off all communication. Don’t reply or respond to anything. And do some homework.
Seems to be written for women, but has many a good tip.
I want to tell you to do some player ass shit, but that’s probably what got you in trouble in the first place. I’ve never been stalked, so I don’t know what it’s like and how one can tell one is being stalked. But 2 things are on my mind now. If a girl asked was asking what to do about a stalking guy people would be much more sincere. And, I recently read an article about some guy in the UK getting a nut ripped off bare handed by an ex girl friend, so watch your nuts.
Part of me wants to agree, but I think that makes about as much sense as someone being partially at fault for being raped. Obviously there are things one can do to avoid getting raped/stalked, but in the end it is the raper/stalker who is really at fault. At least that’s what I’m thinking as I type this…
If you really feel that it’s becoming a serious problem, you might want to go to the cops and insist that they file a report of your complaint even if they can’t or won’t issue a restraining order.
That way, if things escalate and she accuses you of rape or something (not unheard of), at least your earlier complaint can be taken into account.
Just to clarify a few things. I never slept with this women or met her in person. We met online and talked on the phone and exchanged pictures. Once I informed her that I was seeing someone else she lost it. She did not contact me for the last two weeks which was a relief but I was informed recently that I better watch out because something was going to happen to me. That is why I’m a little aprehensive about posting info on this site because she might be lurking around. I am going to talk to police about it and hopefully they can contact her and warn her about leaving me alone.
If anyone has been in the same circumstance or has any suggestions please feel free to voice your opinion.
JEP
OK you don’t know her, never slept with her or anything.
That sounds nasty indeed. If it was a spurned lover, things would be so much easier.
A very effective method here is to get her family interested in what’s going on. Do you know enough about her to that you could go and see her folks? All you need is an address. Explain the whole sad storu to her dad. I am not making fun of your situation, I am serious.
Also, the link just posted gives out a fair bit of good advice, such as securing your home, and varying your routines whenever possible.
Well, it sounds easy then. If she doesn’t know where you live, change your number.
Next question please.
And to clarify, rape is rape in my book and there is no partial blame when a rape occurs. Stop is stop and no is no.
When I said “partially responsible”, what I meant was what the other posters were implying, that being: if you slept with this girl and dumped her then she freaked out, tough sh*t for you…which I would agree with up to a certain point: like if she started slashing your tires, that’s too far for me to support her even if she was treated like garbage.
Any, all this is beside the point, as you didn’t sleep with her. She’s in the wrong here. Lesson: don’t give our your phone number on the net. HELLO
OK, tell us more, did you give her your address?
What do you think she knows?
[quote=“jdsmith”]I think the whole stalker issue depends on whether or not the OP slept with the girl.
I was stalked once by a woman in Glolal Village when I worked there. I did NOT sleep with her. She followed me home on a scooter nearly running me down. Attended every and I mean every class I taught, after she quit her job to …attend my classes. She forced, and I mean FORCED her way into a taxi until I got out begging a policeman to help keep her away from me.
It was nasty and awful and the woman clearly need some counsellling.
What did I do? I quit teaching at Global. And moved.
What the other posters want to know is was it partially your fault? take it in stride…this is like hazing. [/quote]
A similar thing happened to a friend of mine who worked there. He ended up leaving Taiwan because of a crazy 50 year old stalker. Plus the school forced him out because she then started making threats to the school because he wasn’t interested…
And all he did was his job.
[quote=“JadeEmpirePlaya”]Just to clarify a few things. I never slept with this women or met her in person. We met online and talked on the phone and exchanged pictures. That is why I’m a little aprehensive about posting info on this site because she might be lurking around. I am going to talk to police about it and hopefully they can contact her and warn her about leaving me alone.
If anyone has been in the same circumstance or has any suggestions please feel free to voice your opinion.
JEP[/quote]
Personally, I would lodge a report with the police station responsible for your home address area. I would also tape any phone calls she makes if you decide to answer her calls.
Secondly I would not answer the phone line for numbers which have no number showing. At night disconnect the telephone. I do that at home as well so I can miss some early morning calls. Some people think that calling at 6am is ok.
Ignore those who suggest you have done something wrong. Send one final message to your stalker that you have informed the police of her actions, and that you won’t be having further contact with her.
Unfortunately, restraining orders are available in Taiwan only in connection with domestic violence and family disputes.
I suggest that you go to the police and register these threats against you and clearly identify the person making the threats, by name, address, and any other information you have regarding her.
Then, you inform the individual that you have registered the threats with the police and have identified her to the police, and that if anything should happen to you, the person making the threats will be the prime suspect even if your misfortune should appear to have been accidental.
Even if you are reluctant to actually do this, it might be a good idea to tell the person making the threats that you have registered the threats with the police. The person making the threats needs to know (or at least believe) that you will not tolerate such behavior from her.
“Ahhh, the old ‘man’s talk’ about ‘man-stalk’”.
I totally agree with Satellite TV. I don’t know how you might “record” a phone conversation properly without buying equipment or whatever. Maybe the MIC on your computer can record, just make sure your speakers are turned off, so she doesn’t hear the background monitor echo. If you really want to record using a PC, practice first with a non-psycho-xiao-jie friend.
Look through your logs. Do you have email or instant-messaging backlogs? That would be good stuff to turn in to officials.
As for going straight for the parents–that would scare me. Families often try to turn around every detail in favor of their family members. You might succeed, but you could also get an entire family after you and then you’re, welll, y’know.
Another good SatelliteTV-point is: telling her you’ve contacted the law. This might scare her away, regardless of whether or not you actually did such a thing.
(Check out a thread called “Are Taiwanese girls really ‘clingy’”…Interesting).
Listen to Tigerman. He’s right and has the best advice.