The husband has been on my case for years, saying I don’t have the grace too accept compliments. No one before him said that, so I dismissed it as one of those spousal critiques. Last year a friend came to visit for 2 weeks and the 2 of them ganged up and tried to put some sense into my head.
I have been more aware since then, that, I am always shaking my head if someone compliments me, or I start a long wonded compliment about the other person and change the topic.
I think I grew up, thinking compliments were flattery. Maybe I grew up in a culture, where people who know you don’t say nice things to your face and people who don’t know you don’t say anything to you. I am serious. (no I am not blaming the parents).
Even in the written world, I respond to compliments with self deprecation. It has been better since last year, but do others do that too?? Why??
More importantly, has anyone ever overcome this? How?