Rape is one of the rarest crimes that are committed against women.
That’s what all of us like to think.
We also like to think it doesn’t happen where we live!! Doesn’t happen among us. That’s why the Delhi gang rape touched a nerve. Not in a swanky cineplex, not among us swanky neighbourhoods, not to a medical student. It happens in villages or to shady girls in shady places. It’s not like rapes have suddenly increased, it’s just that we’ve woken up to it. Therefore the protests. The sad thing about the protests is, that they come in too late, late very late. The good thing, that we’ve started bothering about them. The wrong thing, to blame police and govt. for EVERYTHING and wash our hands off the responsibility of a diseased society. The right thing, is to have ‘zero tolerance’ for sexual predators, abusers, and empower women. The thing to be wary of, is that this uproar doesn’t die down quick, but is taken to a crescendo and a finale.
Why gang rape?? For the same reason, men hunt in packs. It’s safer, more fun to share the thrill with your buddies, and ofcourse you can dispense of the victim easier than when alone. But that’s what I think. I can be very wrong I don’t know. I am assuming it is easier to do it in numbers, because to rape a woman alone, she should already be very vulnerable and you really have to beat her up to subjugate her or scare her with a knife or gun or whatever. A group of 8?? well she’s down in an instant…again I’m guessing, There is no possible way, I’d understand why any man would want to rape, let alone 8 together. Some things are beyond comprehension. Who knows, maybe men upto mischief just see a prey and and go for it. I don’t know. Men hunting women in packs, are much more likely to get away with the crime. Some say it’s not about sexual pleasure but a power thing. Where is the power in outnumbering someone 8:1? :aiyo:
Why are rape victims left to die or killed?? That’s universal. No one wants to get caught. It’s mostly in movies, that a woman is raped and the predator walks off, in reality to undress a woman without her will and pin her down, you have to really beat a person, and most , almost all rape victims are left to die. Sure a number of them survive, but only because the rapist was sure he won’t get caught or he didn’t know how to finish her off.
My problem with the my society??? It is not just rape, It is sexual offence of any kind. It is a woman’s right to talk, and talk back and challenge. Women everywhere are second class citizens even online (it’s true so let’s not protest). If a woman speaks the truth, she is a bitch and mean, if a guy does it, he is sensible and a straight talker…blah blah. Anyways the point is women are told and taught and they learn to hold their tongues everywhere. Here (in India), they are also made to silence their voices. So molestation, a lewd remark, an obscene gesture, are things girls learn to shut up about, authorities laugh away, society just ignores. Where do you think it leads the perpetrator?? A notch higher. From rubbing his balls in public, he is squeezing breasts in a lonely alley and then raping women behind bushes or in buses. This is where I think we err. We as a society not just the judiciary. We silently accept this. We don’t empower our girls to talk or COMPLAIN. Nopesies. I know this is true everywhere in every culture, but for us, as a society that in its recent history has been ravaged by foreign rule, - we are just taught to ‘take it’. Or we die. Yeah we’ve been politically independent for nearly 70 years, but social change takes a lot more time to come (think of abolishing slavery in the US, universal franchise everywhere etc.). Until December last year, I was pessimistic about any big change, but now??? With the protests, with women realizing that there is no ‘dishonour’ in being raped, things have changed. Things will change.
Men, who were aggressive in your face in the streets, are a bit more careful, they don’t leer and jeer. I know it’s just a mild shift, rapes occur as we speak, but they do so everywhere, and yet the shift at least in cities is perceptible. Hopefully it will percolate everywhere and widen. Hopefully.
Rape is one of the rarest crimes that are committed against women.
I wish it were true.
Oh and if anybody thinks, I am blaming anyone or anything for the ills of of my society 
. I write this, trying to comprehend the phenomena myself. IT is not the answer to anything, solution to anything, merely an attempt to understand. If I do blame anyone, it is the women in my country, who are ashamed of being women, ashamed of giving birth to one, - and yet how do you blame someone who does not know any better?? Oh and let’s not please, try and troll me. There will be other threads.
