[quote=“wollemi”][quote=“dashgalaxy86”]
Bah. Server apparently crashed for a second there, lost my reply. Here’s a summary:
I don’t think it’s that hostile. My Taiwanese girlfriend and her mother, right behind me, severely disagree with you. I just asked if they though blacks were dumb or violent, and they said “No. Just the color we don’t like.” Word for word, although my girlfriend went on a rant about how I’ve been spending too much time on this forum today. [/quote]
Prejudice at the very least. Even now it seems you not have gotten over to them the fact that a person is a person on the inside. The color they are is unchosen by them and to prejudice against others based on color is wrong my friend no matter how it has come to be there. At the very least it is sad to think that Taiwanese people look on the shade of skin of a child and prejudice themselves towards or away from them. You say the old lady has accepted a lesbian daughter and now a white future son in law. She sounds about ready to learn that color is only skin deep. You should just tell her this instead of getting angry with strangers who are telling you it is time to retool.
You are marrying in to this family, you have love for the daughter and the mother, but you must also be able to see that if you don’t point this thing out then you are just letting her continue with her harmful thoughts. Where is the thin end of the wedge? What you have likely done is bonded with the old woman by protecting her prejudice. Perhaps what you could now do is to start to make her aware that people are people. Color is color. The two things are very different. Otherwise one day your little six year old Taiwanese child will be sat in class laughing at pictures of black children and calling them names. Or when your children face name calling for being half white what will you do then? Will you get mad then or will you tell yourself to stop being so ethnocentric? Be the solution, not an apologist for the problem.
Consider also that your girlfriend wouldn’t have loved you if you had been born to black parents. Uh ho, spaghetti-o. Not such a nice thought.
People here have taken offense at what the old lady said and your ability to explain it away. You should think about that. Either they are all wrong or you have some thinking to do. It is hard to stand up and tell the old lady she is wrong. I get that. But you must make her and the daughter see that their thoughts are wrong. I know the world is huge and racists come in their millions. But you do the right thing this one time and make a difference. A small change can bring about a big effect.[/quote]
There are infinite good points to be made on either side, but there is only one side I agree with, and that is my side. To be fair, if my girlfriend were born to black parents, I wouldn’t have been interested in her in the first place. It’s not my thing. Uh oh spaghettio. That’s not racism, buddy, that’s just personal preference. I’m not that into black girls, physically speaking.
Anyway, you make it sound like I stood up for what the mom said. I have criticized the point of view, and first did so when my girlfriend first told me about it. I’ve been having a discussion with her and her mom about it all night as this has been going on. She insists she meant no racism, but of course we all know better. Yes, there is racism behind it, but there is no malice or bad intent. The racism is strictly related to skin color (in her case, at least, I can’t speak for others).
I also do worry about the kids being teased for being half-white but I have friends with half-white kids in Taiwanese schools and most of them are very popular… I even know of a half-black kid near where I lived in Neihu, and although I’m sure he gets his fair share of shit, I’ve seen him playing with his Taiwanese peers. I think it’s rough at first but as time goes on they get used to you. Even the moms stop gossiping after a few years. Besides, my future wife and I are independently wealthy and don’t have to work so we’ll be homeschooling the kids until they’re old enough for TAS.