I’m not entirely sure what the point of my post is, other than a late night ramble to this faceless community of fellow Anglo-Formosans. I don’t try to be anonymous on this site, but I don’t know 99% of you IRL so it gives me the pretense of a safe space to ramble.
Anyway, we love it here. Coming close to finishing up our second year living in Taipei now and things are overall really great from a quality of life standpoint. I think my kids have hit their stride in school and in social life…and my wife and I have little to complain about. Sure there’s some warts showing up now that we’ve passed the honeymoon phase of our expat life, but we love it and have made the conscious decision to stay in Taipei indefinitely…ie, we can tentatively plan for another 2-ish years and then reevaluate each year.
That being said, as happy as my wife is with life in Taiwan overall, she’s not having the professional fulfillment she desires. We’re super fortunate that we can survive without working to earn income, however she’s not the type to enjoy life if she doesn’t also strive for her purpose in life, which for her generally revolves around professional goals. I am a bit more neutral, but I get it too. I don’t mind wasting my days away being lazy, but I do also feel a little something missing when I do that too much.
So here we are with this strange juxtaposition: on one hand we discuss how much we like it here and how we’ve succeeded in designing the life we want here in Taipei. We’re good planning for two more years, but we could see those two years continuing on indefinitely. Then on the other hand my wife is interviewing for dream jobs that, if she lands, would require us to up and leave pretty quickly. I mean, on paper it totally makes sense to have two different desires (Life vs career) pulling you in different directions, but it’s just weird to be living it right now. It feels like a bit of limbo.
And I’m kinda doing the same. I have two distinct possibilities that I am pursuing and in either case, if I succeed then those opportunities would require us to leave Taiwan. However in my case, the time horizon is much longer (1-2 years) and we’d have plenty of time to plan and transition a bit more smoothly. The other thing is that, in my case, I’m also perfectly content pursuing my professional goals from here in Taiwan. I don’t require the perfect role in the perfect company to feel fulfilled.
Anyway, I don’t have a point to all of this. But it just feels weird to have found a place we love so much and yet here we are wondering if we’re gonna leave by choice!!