Foreign Females where do you find guys! HELP

Life Dating & Relationships
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[quote=“namastestore”][quote=“wolf_reinhold”]
Let me make a quick answer to the question: Foreign Females where do you find guys! HELP
Women have all the power. All you need to do is turn the tables and walk right up and introduce yourself to the guy you want and ask to take him out for coffee or something. He will think he’d just won the lottery.
(That, by the way, has never happened to me.)
By the way, I am assuming that you are reasonably attractive and not repulsive. Then your quest might be more difficult (but not impossible).[/quote]

Okay, I take that as a challenge…should we women start a statistical thing to prove this in/vaild?
:serenade: :saywhat:[/quote]
Yes, but note Wolf’s caveat:

[quote=“wolf”]
By the way, I am assuming that you are reasonably attractive and not repulsive. Then your quest might be more difficult (but not impossible).[/quote]

:smiley: :smiley: :smiley:

(Just teasing you, Namahottie. You’ll have no problems.)

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Well, every time of late a woman has approached me and said that she wanted to do 'something" with me, or just approached me in general, she has ben lucky.

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Are the women here implying that they are powerless to instigate a “possible pick-up”? Chivalry, it seems, is still alive. What happened to Women’s Lib?
Come on, ladies, take your best shot.

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Wish me luck! :wink:

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[quote=“MaPoSquid”]
:smiley: :smiley: :smiley:

(Just teasing you, Namahottie. You’ll have no problems.)[/quote]

Im a hottie now, huh? I must be sleepwalking thru this lifetime…cause if the past is any measure of what the future may bring, then I don’t know… :laughing:

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What’s the deal with the trainer? Is it a pecs thing?
I thought you women-folk craved affection and respect, not horndogging. But if I am wrong, count me in.

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God help me, I may have to leave the IP forum for this. This is better’n Animal Planet or National Geographic TV, together or separately, take yer pick.

:bravo: :notworthy: :laughing:

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As usual, soon as a woman asserts that she would like to live in Taiwan and still maintain her standards she is leaped upon by some of the most sexists, eye-centered posters on Forumosa. You know who you are. Guys who refer to the women back home as walruses in pink track suits and complain that too many Japanese girls have thick ankles.

Dangergyrl there was nothing wrong with your posts so don’t bother to defend yourself. Because if you do, your words will be parsed, dissected, taken out of context, and distorted without any concern for what you actually meant. You will grow shriller and shriller trying to regain your reputation which of course will just confirm your nastiness.

Don’t get sucked in.

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Thank you Mucha Man! 100% agree with you.

Why is it that its ok for guys to expect their lady to look good, but somehow its shallow if the lady expects the same in return? Dangergyrll simply said she wants a guy who takes care of himself. Physical attraction is important in a relationship at least at the start. That’s what initially draws people together.

Dangergyrll don’t let these guys make you feel bad about having standards. I was able to find guys who met mine and I’m sure you will too.

And try the approaching men first idea. That really worked for me. I never did that in the U.S., but its a different playing field here in Taiwan. Especially if you want a Taiwanese man, just walking over and saying hello might do the trick.

The art is approaching the guy and still letting him make the first move. Talk to him for a while, smile and give him signs your interested. If he’s mutually attracted to you then he’ll ask you out or ask you for your phone number at some point. If he doesn’t, then he’s probably not that interested.

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Great post, Mucha Man.
Overweight people can be just as hot or even hotter than somebody who is thin…it all depends on the person’s self-confidence.
Look at Missy Elliot. She’s a big girl, but incredibly hot…she’s active and self-confident.
I met a really nice guy on Friday night who was overweight, but we really got into dancing together. The trouble started when we went to a table to chat. First he told me that he goes to the gym every day because he’s trying to lose weight and made me feel his muscles (big!). Fine. But then he went on to mention his weight and the fact that he is “too fat” at least four times!
I ended up running away in frustration…and the worst thing is he probably runs around telling people that he can’t get a girl because he’s too fat. Hell yes! Next time leave the fat at home, and just come out and dance and chat like a normal person!

It’s like getting in bed with a guy who goes “I’m sorry, my penis is too small.” What are you supposed to say…“Well, now that you mention it…”
Try to accept what you’ve got and work with it. You’ll be a much happier person. (easier said than done i guess)

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I would like to say a couple of things in defense of some of the other guys who’ve posted here.

There’s a difference between saying “I want someone who looks good” and saying “Why is everyone else here so ugly”. Maybe it was just poorly thought out, but her post came out sounding much more like the second than the first.

Also, if a guy came on here and made some post about “Why are all the Western women here so fat and unattractive and blah blah blah” he would get - and probably already has been at least a few times in the history of Forumosa - torn a new arsehole by the womenfolk. So why is it the converse is apparently not allowed to hold true?

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[quote=“namastestore”]
So, that’s the reality… :astonished: Seems to me(reading btw the lines) that men who choose to do this are seeing themselves as vaulable enough(?) to be able to select from around the world, i.e. why settle for this(western) when I could ‘outsource’ myself to a ‘higher’ bidder’ at a ‘cheaper’ rate… Hmmm, makes me think well, if the guys are broading their dating range based on those possible thoughts, then WTH am I doing and where do I begin to look?!![/quote]

Yeah, that’s what is going on. I think men have been outsourcing themselves for a long while. You go where the demand is. Kind of like the outsourced/off-shored phenomena of white collar technical jobs that have been accelerating the past 5-6 years. The world being a smaller place, it lets men and women to “market” themselves in ways (e.g. Internet) that wasn’t available before.

Back in the States, for years, my target market wasn’t buying. Ever hear of the angry AA male? (go to I hate myself forum and AA women are sell-outs for bile filled misogynistic and self-loathing at its best…er worst). I had to change the product. Then I found that there were lots of open minded women who didn’t just follow the usual stereotypes.

But that takes a lot of work and self-reflection :neutral:

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Wish me luck! :wink:[/quote]

Good luck :slight_smile:

The thing is if the target market is westernized men, then taking the initiative is a good thing. I think westernized men are much more open to it and very pleasantly welcoming to it. I think a local guy would be so totally freaked out his head would explode :blush:

Pleasant demeanor, positive attitude and being pleasing to the eye are sure bets for “being attractive” in any language and culture.

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[quote=“Mucha (Muzha) Man”]As usual, soon as a woman asserts that she would like to live in Taiwan and still maintain her standards she is leaped upon by some of the most sexists, eye-centered posters on Forumosa. You know who you are. Guys who refer to the women back home as walruses in pink track suits and complain that too many Japanese girls have thick ankles.

Dangergyrl there was nothing wrong with your posts so don’t bother to defend yourself. Because if you do, your words will be parsed, dissected, taken out of context, and distorted without any concern for what you actually meant. You will grow shriller and shriller trying to regain your reputation which of course will just confirm your nastiness.

Don’t get sucked in.[/quote]

I hope your Lonely Planet bosses hired a proofreader to go over your copy. :smiling_imp:

Nothing wrong with her post? She wrote: I have to say the local guys are always starring at my chest and hair and I just think most of them are nerdy. (NO OFFENSE, BUT ITS TRUE). I see some cute guys of every color from around the globe and wonder how many ladies out there are bored,horny,alone or just hang out with their female roomies. I am not ugly and keep in shape, but I see so many beer bellied guys and nerdy guys with Asian girls. Guess they are less picky and I am not really that scrutinizing. HELP LADIES. I dare say… Are you getting any, or having any fun?

She has just made rude comments offending local men and expats who don’t fit into her stereotype on male beauty. Yes, many of us on Forumosa are sometimes guilty of having appreciation of local women and of knocking caucasian princesses off their pedestals. If she is unhappy with the dating scene here in Taiwan, she can leave, become more positive, or buy a good old fashioned vibrator. If she can afford it, she should look into the bone. Many London girls keep one in their purse. timesonline.co.uk/article/0, … 66,00.html

I am sick of “suburban socialists” coming to Taiwan and displaying their cultural relativism for all to see. And Mucha Man, that includes many Canadians. Take your politically correct positions and stick them where the sun don’t shine. And since you are displaying your sensitive “metrosexual” side again for all to see, perhaps you can dress up in your Givenchy shirt and give her a “tour” :stuck_out_tongue:

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[quote=“Erhu”]
And try the approaching men first idea. That really worked for me.[/quote]

What ever Erhu… :noway: :unamused: :unamused:

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:bulb: :bulb: :bulb: :bulb: Oh, that was an eye opener, a point of view I hadn’t seen before…And I think Chewycorns did hit the nail on the head. Coming from the west where caucasian beauty is still king, it seems that his observation/truth seems to rank right up there with the occational caucasian male that gets irked over the ‘forgiener’ thing. I guess she’s dealing with the reality that her ‘beauty’ doesn’t cause the world to spin…
Truth be told, she shouldn’t have much of a problem meeting anyone here. Especially in Taipei. I think it maybe a matter of her adjusting to a fact that the ‘stuff’ aint gonna land in her lap like it did at home. And if that’s so, guess what YOU AINT HOME…So, she should be open to new ways of growth, including in the love field…

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[quote][quote]
And try the approaching men first idea. That really worked for me.[/quote]

What ever Erhu… :noway: :unamused: :unamused:[/quote]

hmmm…are you questioning the accuracy of my statement? It worked when I struck up a conversation with the cute bartender at the Barrio. And when I asked if I could sit with a table full of hot Taiwanese guys at Roxy. And when I ended up at KTV with a couple of guys that my girlfriend and I approached at a Thai restaurant.

Granted, those didn’t turn into long term relationships, but they were fun and wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t initiate the contact.

Oh and I almost forgot the time I called Stragbasher in the middle of the night… :smiling_imp: …kidding. That was something that the girls at Forumosa Happy Hour put me up to as a joke AND it didn’t work anyway. That SB just loves to play hard to get!

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[quote=“namastestore”][quote=“Chewycorns”]
She has just made rude comments offending local men and expats who don’t fit into her stereotype on male beauty. Yes, many of us on Forumosa are sometimes guilty of having appreciation of local women and of knocking caucasian princesses off their pedestals.
[/quote]

:bulb: :bulb: :bulb: :bulb: Oh, that was an eye opener, a point of view I hadn’t seen before…[/quote]

I’ve seen it before:

Why do farang girls hate Thailand?

Some of the comments are quite hilarious.

As for those of you who don’t enjoy “bald and pasty foreign men with beer bellies” discussing with “fat hairy man-hating foreign women-monsters”, check out the “Naughty Heffalump”-cartoon (an educational video about the dangers of ordering an asian bride over the internet).

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[quote]I hope your Lonely Planet bosses hired a proofreader to go over your copy.
[/quote]

Oh, I am slane. Guess I should stop drinking bourbon when I post. :unamused:

She’s been here for 5 months. Of course her “cultural relativism” is out there. Give her a break. She doesn’t deserve to be at the receiving end of all the bile you’ve built up over the years.

I had good male role models growing up. Tough Irish boxers who also loved and respected women. I’ve never felt the need to knock a women down off a pedestal or any other place she happened to occupy.

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[quote=“namastestore”][quote=“Erhu”]
And try the approaching men first idea. That really worked for me.[/quote]

What ever Erhu… :noway: :unamused: :unamused:[/quote]

There’s a few good men who like that direct approach. Approaching a woman and getting that rejection isn’t something that many guys like to do but they do because it’s the social norm. It’s nice that the shoe is on the other foot every now and then. :bulb: