Hi all. First of all, I want to thank you for all of the help that you gave me when I was in a Youbike-scooter accident back in April. That situation was thankfully resolved, and I truly appreciate all of your input.
So here I am seeking your advice again. I am engaged with a Filipina working as a caregiver in New Taipei City. I would like to get married, but the problem (as far as I can tell) is that a marriage is not completed until registered with the Household Registration Office. I don’t have household registration because I’m living here on visa-exempt status + extensions, and I don’t think that she can register the marriage in her district as there’s no way in hell I’d be allowed to live in the house of her boss (an 88 yr. old senile Taiwanese man). Can’t get married at the U.S. embassy because embassy officers are not allowed to perform weddings.
I’m planning on bringing her to the U.S., and I’d like to get this taken care of before leaving early next year as fiance visas mean more paperwork, larger fees, generally more complicated overall. However I also don’t want to fuck up getting married and find that the marriage isn’t valid when applying for her U.S. visa because I didn’t register it with Household Registration Office.
If you’re planning on living in the US permanently, seeing how your relationship goes when you move to the US might not be such a bad idea. Where you live can have a big impact on a relationship, especially when you’re dealing with different countries, cultures, and distance from family.
Marriage is a big deal. IMHO more paperwork and larger fees shouldn’t take priority over the relationship itself.
Just an a little bit off-topic question: I understand caregivers work 24/7 and typically only have one day off per month in Taiwan. So does that mean you actually met with your girlfriend typically only once per month? That must be difficult.