I’ve been dating this girl for several weeks now and went on a date with her recently in the past couple of days. It was the 3rd date. I will be honest and say it didn’t go as well as I had planned because I was very sick the week before and did not properly plan ahead. However she really wanted to meet and seemed excited about it so I put together a plan last minute and we went out.
Anyhow, we grabbed lunch, and then went to the mall to do some shopping to walk off the food. Then we had planned to go ice skating. The problem was, when we arrived, the line was so long it was not worth the wait. She didn’t want to wait either, but now we had no other activities to do and there was nothing else in the area except cafes (and we’ve done a lot of those). Anyhow I suggested she came over to my place to watch some Netflix and she agreed.
We arrived at my place and unfortunately the AC literally broke the prior night, but she seemed okay with it. Anyhow we chilled on the coach as we watched Netflix. I am a believer that not every girl invited over to watch films want to hook up, and I am very careful seeing how girls respond to physical touch, advances etc. This girl seemed very neutral when I touched her lightly, and she didn’t really lean in towards me when we were watching the film.
She also was quite conservative and was the type of person who wasn’t comfortable hugging after the first date. So I kept that all in mind. It seemed like she wasn’t there to hookup, based on all of the social cues and body language, and I was cool with it. She did enjoy the movie we watched, and we did have a lot of laughs.
Anyhow she had to leave soon after since she lives in a different city, so I walked her outside. Asked if she needed me to call her a taxi, she said no. So I initiated a hug again, and she accepted it but seemed very hesitant. This made me feel weird because it’s literally the 3rd date and she wasn’t responding positively to my escalation. Mind you the first date I had asked if I could kiss her and she said she was not comfortable, so it isn’t a matter of me not having the balls to try it. I’ve just been trying to gauge her comfort level and responding accordingly. This is also how I reached the conclusion that this “Netflix and Chill” session was probably not going to be a hookup, since she was so hesitant to hugging and kissing on prior dates (However she liked me enough to come out to 2 more dates?)
So I text her about 24 hours later to see how she was doing, and no response. It’s been another 24 hours since, ghosted. I don’t know exactly what I did wrong, where I screwed up exactly or if its not me at all. But I’d like some insight if anyone has any. Is there something culturally I am missing? I am Asian American btw, grew up in the states.
Thanks!