I went on 3 different dates and I find it hard to find things in common with the locals. Has anyone else had this experience? All 3 still live with their parents and are in their early 30s.
Girl #1 - workaholic, works at a clinic. Her interests outside of work include shopping and watching TV. Works Saturday shifts sometimes.
Girl #2 - likes watching Netflix and helping her parents decorate the house recently. Took her on a hike and she ran out of breath after a few minutes.
Girl #3 - likes to go to bars with her friends and watching movies. Also likes shopping. Went on 3 dates and I think we’ve run out of things to talk about.
All 3 I initially fell for because of their looks, thought they were the one at some point and now I don’t feel the connection so much anymore. Will probably continue with #1 and #3 and see if it goes anywhere but it’s more like a chore these days since I do all the planning.
It might help if you can be that guy who introduces them to a whole bunch of new stuff. If they’re totally not interested, fine, move along, but sometimes people will happily shift out of their rut if they’re given a bit of a prod. If you’re interesting enough and enthusiastic enough, you should find that potential friends (male or female) buy into your enthusiasm.
The hiking girl, for instance: did she whine and moan and say she never wants to do that again? Or did she say, that was fun, let’s do it again but somewhere a bit flatter next time?
Also worth bearing in mind that most people worldwide just enjoy watching their lives pass by. If this drives you crazy, you’re going to find it hard to find “the one” wherever you go.
You seem to have an odd way of looking at this dating lark. The correct answer is “so we can go back to my place and jump in the shower afterwards”.
So you want an outdoorsy type with more to offer than shallow things such as shopping and netflix, but all you are offering yourself is shallow boasting about being well off?
