Need pics of your wife and pics of your hottie so we can judge who to go for.
But seriously things are never good for the CheeTah. And you know? You could end up losing your wife and then losing your hottie to another CheeTah. Those that cheat WITH you, will for sure later cheat ON YOU.
Thatâs coming soon. Financial matters prevent that presently. Weird thing is, my spouse reckons she loves me and sends lovey dovey LINE messages to me but thereâs never any action! I canât be THAT bad since my mistressâŚwell, letâs just say sheâs VERY talented and appreciates my âgiftsâ also, [/quote]
I find you very distasteful, bragging about your unfaithfulness, and canât understand why people here have actually taken their time to give a considered reply to you. I suspect that you are not for real, well at least I hope you arenât âŚ
Auntie Pengâs Communication. If you are unhappy about your marriage, speak up. Your wife probably thinks everythingâs peachy and that you are giving each other space, not a clingy relationship, how mature, how healthy⌠when you are already one foot out the door. How is she supposed to know? If you expect someone to just know, there are problems in communication. Sheâs not a telepath. If you have spoken your piece and demanded more time and attention as you felt you needed and nothing changed, well, then you can manifest your displeasure and state that, too. Then you can go out the door with your head high, not sneaking around like a thief.
One of the worse love myths is that people just know. No one knows.
[quote=âIconâ]Auntie Pengâs Communication. If you are unhappy about your marriage, speak up. Your wife probably thinks everythingâs peachy and that you are giving each other space, not a clingy relationship, how mature, how healthy⌠when you are already one foot out the door. How is she supposed to know? If you expect someone to just know, there are problems in communication. Sheâs not a telepath. If you have spoken your piece and demanded more time and attention as you felt you needed and nothing changed, well, then you can manifest your displeasure and state that, too. Then you can go out the door with your head high, not sneaking around like a thief.
One of the worse love myths is that people just know. No one knows.
You might not have a FB account, but you do have a Forumosa account, donât you? Better not forget to log out of Forumosa before your wife can access your computer. You are walking on thin ice. [/quote]
[quote=âIconâ]Auntie Pengâs Communication. If you are unhappy about your marriage, speak up. Your wife probably thinks everythingâs peachy and that you are giving each other space, not a clingy relationship, how mature, how healthy⌠when you are already one foot out the door. How is she supposed to know? If you expect someone to just know, there are problems in communication. Sheâs not a telepath. If you have spoken your piece and demanded more time and attention as you felt you needed and nothing changed, well, then you can manifest your displeasure and state that, too. Then you can go out the door with your head high, not sneaking around like a thief.
One of the worse love myths is that people just know. No one knows.
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Iâve voiced my dissatisfaction time and time again over the past few years. She just chuckles, but still tells me daily she loves me. Actions speak louder than words though.
Thatâs coming soon. Financial matters prevent that presently. Weird thing is, my spouse reckons she loves me and sends lovey dovey LINE messages to me but thereâs never any action! I canât be THAT bad since my mistressâŚwell, letâs just say sheâs VERY talented and appreciates my âgiftsâ also, [/quote]
I find you very distasteful, bragging about your unfaithfulness, and canât understand why people here have actually taken their time to give a considered reply to you. I suspect that you are not for real, well at least I hope you arenât âŚ[/quote]
Guess youâve never been in my situation then huh? There are MANY factors and variables.
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I find you very distasteful, bragging about your unfaithfulness, and canât understand why people here have actually taken their time to give a considered reply to you. I suspect that you are not for real, well at least I hope you arenât âŚ[/quote]
Guess youâve never been in my situation then huh? There are MANY factors and variables.[/quote]
Dishonesty is always a bit distasteful, isnât it? Misleading someone so that you can get what you want from them because they donât have all of the information.
I also think itâs bad to demand monogamy from a partner while refusing to have sex with them. That sucks, and is selfish, and requires a change in the arrangement (I suppose you married with the agreement, whether stated aloud or not, that she would have sex with you several times a week, and it was under those conditions that you agreed to monogamy).
But dishonesty is so much slimier- itâs hard to respect someone who engages in it. And to be somehow jubilant about it- to brag, as pgdaddy said- yup, I think most would find that behavior distasteful.
You might not have a FB account, but you do have a Forumosa account, donât you? Better not forget to log out of Forumosa before your wife can access your computer. You are walking on thin ice. [/quote]
Thanks for the advice, boeta! [/quote]
Wouldnât make a difference ⌠itâs all on Google search! And reading the forum doesnât require anyone to login!
Granted, there could be a million reasons why youâre unhappy together and maybe one, or both of you should consider leaving. None of us here know anything at all about your situation. But we do know one thing without requiring any more details. There is NEVER an excuse or a reason to cheat. I donât care what she did, how unreasonable she is, and how hard she makes your life. Unhappiness and an unbearable marriage might be mostly her fault for all we know. Usually itâs a two way street but letâs say for the sake of argument itâs all her. So? The actual act of cheating is always 100% the cheaters fault, that being you.
If itâs that bad, man the f up and leave, then do what you want and let her do the same. Donât be the monkey who canât let go of one branch without grabbing on to the next one.
A thought just occurred: if he was so happy when he found out how hard it is to prove infidelity, wait until he discovers it is mission impossible to divorce. Heâll be âelatedâ.
Ooh I didnât think of that. I honestly donât get this- why on earth would someone want to cling to a marriage in which the other person desperately doesnât want to be with you? I suppose it has something to do with money and the divorce laws in Taiwan (that donât favor the woman.)
I swear to god I am never getting legally married. Iâd go for a small âweddingâ party if the sig other wants one (but could not cost more than a monthâs wages) but fuck getting the government involved. I guess you canât count on the other person to be civil when splitting assets and prenups donât work anyways, so with the divorce rate so high, what would be the best way to deal with assets? Itâs one huge mind-screw.
actually divorce law hasnât been changed due to pressure from women, ironically. But marriage offers significant benefits for foreigners and also legal recognition for kids etc, there are many reasons to get married. Splitting assets due to a divorce,
itâs a normal state of affairs.
Well, if they have children, it might have to do because the foreign parent might be afraid of losing all the custody rights, plus having their kids raised in a hostile environment which wonât care to teach the foreign parent language to the kid, making impossible for the parent not only to see the kid, but communicate with him. In my opinion, that would be a nightmare even worse than being stuck with someone that doesnât like you.
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Well, if they have children, it might have to do because the foreign parent might be afraid of losing all the custody rights, plus having their kids raised in a hostile environment which wonât care to teach the foreign parent language to the kid, making impossible for the parent not only to see the kid, but communicate with him. In my opinion, that would be a nightmare even worse than being stuck with someone that doesnât like you.[/quote]
Yaâll are bumming me out. Sometimes I think people shouldnât get married until their mid-thirties, and only after a thorough review of how each partner has handled past conflict and whether such ways of handling conflict would be conducive to a healthy environment for a child (past behavior being the best predictor of future behavior and all).
Of course if everyone were as anxious, strict and critical before entering marriage/parenthood as I am, marriage and child-bearing would be such a rarity that we wouldnât be having this discussion.