Just out of curiosity : are sex buddies common in Taiwan or is there a big cultural taboo about it?
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shouldnât be any trouble if you follow the normal rules of decorum.
Of course in five minutes someone will be in to tell all about their horror story with crazy exes and acid in the face and gangster brothersâŠblahblahblah 
In my experience, no. N-O. I wouldnât say itâs rare but it is definitely uncommon to hear of or know of or get yourself one of these golden gems. As a formerly single and active man on the prowl, what starts as a casual thing always, 100% of the time, winds up turning sour, one way or another. This is not to lay fault or point fingers. Might be the man who wants more, might be the woman who wants more.
Meanwhile, one-night stands are common, esp. if you frequent clubs, but friends with benefits doesnât fly here.
I wouldnât say thereâs an outright taboo about it, others might disagree, but it just isnât part of the culture. Other threads have taken this subject much further than Iâm willing to go with it. Casual sexual relations are very very difficult to maintain in a passive-aggressive society such as the one we have here, and itâs only a matter of time before one of the holier-than-thou grumps chimes in with, âOh yeah, what exactly do you mean by that?â What I mean is, FWB is only possible when both parties are open, honest and straight-forward about their wants and intentions in the relationship, and anybody who thinks thatâs SOP in Taiwan (or really, anywhere in Asia) is living a very charmed life or living in fantasyland.
Very common. Friends with benefits, no problem. To the point of trying to avoid certain friends because that seems to be the result of every random meeting. Not that there can ever be to much, but there is only so much time in a dayâŠ
You want to go to movie? You want to go for coffee? Or you want to go home and bonk?
Havenât chatted in a few months? No problem. That was great. Take care.
See all the guys and girls walking around together but only as friendsâŠ? Well, all the sweet and innocent squeaky voice isnât as hello kitty as it appears.
In the nude, I would imagine.
Is there another Taiwan that Iâve never heard of?
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Perhaps there is, but as a married, balding, slightly overweight, middle aged man these are things I never have to worry about.
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OK, Iâll say it if no one else will. How âsex friendsâ are viewed in Taiwan is the same way they are viewed everywhere else, meaning itâs a common male fantasy that most women think is disgusting. I guess the original poster didnât do any reading at all about how sex is viewed in Asia. Too bad, since some other people are taking the piss out of him by feeding him what he wants to hear.
Well, Iâve spent many years in Japan, all my ex-girlfriends are Japanese, so, I think I know a bit about it.
From my understanding, there are two worlds that coexist together :
The one youâre talking about, where the girls find it disgusting.
The other one you seem totally unaware of, where girls have fun with multiple regular partners just for the sex ⊠and some extra presents too.
There is even a word for that in Japan, itâs called ă»ă㏠(sefure).
Looks like youâve learnt something today 
All I can say is âhuh male fantasy?â Seems pretty common. Woman thing is disgusting? Someone better let all those woman doing it knowâŠ
Hey superguavaguy, kudos on your candor and conviction but listen, in the U.S. and other civilized countries, FWB is just another heading on craigslist, i.e. as common as rats in restaurant. The common male fantasy youâre probably thinking about is the girlfriend-arranged threesome over the Labor Day Weekend.
Seeing as how your moniker suggests you are not a woman, your statement that women find it âdisgustingâ falls flat. Back it up. Give us something to chew on.
Tango42 is fortunate and IMHO, living a charmed life. If only it were so easy for the rest of us. Câest la vie, as you say.
Iâve such friends. Some have been with me, and others havenât, but theyâre cool in and out of the bedroom. Many are young divorcees, naive students, and (my favorite) matrimonially disinterested women.
Not to pose myself as a Casanova, but as a general rule, an ONS who wants to see you again becomes an FWB so long as you donât even introduce the idea of starting a committed relationship with them.
Seasoned Taiwanese women prefer foreign men as lovers. The consensus I hear is that Taiwanese-on-Taiwanese sex is hopelessly awkward and brief.
âNever stick dick in crazyâ
I was told to pass it on.
Forget Taiwan, tell me where having sex friends is not a taboo.
âHi Aunt Martha, meet Mr. Mambo my fuck buddyâ :roflmao:
Câmon dude, grow up. If you have a sex buddy, you are not going to be advertising it, right?? So whatâs the taboo thing got to do with it? Coz if you are going to hang around bars, and parks and go on double dates with your sex buddy then its called being in a relationship. 
Am I missing sth.?
Well obviously the ones you meet will tell you that. There are many women in Taiwan who have absolutely no interest in foreign men. Iâm a man but at least I know how women operate!
Yeah, you are missing a part time sex buddy. Who said you need to hang around parks or bars to meet sex buddies? Try laundromats, libraries, and night classes.
You mean they come with salt and pepper and vinegar all over them like fish and chips?
Letâs just say that theyâve been dressed with a variety of special sauces.
Sex friends are not taboo in the West. The whole point of share house living (not to mention mixed dormitory life when backpacking or attending uni) is, for many, the oft available sex. And Aunt Martha!!! Really Divea 
. Few of my young western friends live with their parents let alone aunties, so I cannot possibly imagine a circumstance where one would introduce a âfuck buddyâ to an aunt. Jesus 
literally . I havenât had the chance (or desire) to introduce a long term girlfriend to my parents for more than a decade. And Iâm not young anymore so GOD knows what the youth are up to these days . . .
I have roughly 100 Taiwanese as friends on Facebook and 2 of them are publicly in open relationships, on Facebook, (both between 20-30). I know at least three more who are not public about having fuck buddies.
So in my world they are out there. Itâs just not considered healthy and normal as it is back in Aus, although it will still earn you some respect here, on the quiet, among the more liberal minded.
Iâve got to agree with superguavaguy. Every time Iâve seen an FWB situation, somebody wanted more/was getting hurt. Usually the woman. If you think your situation is different, youâve probably got a very good faker on your hands (what else is she faking? 
) whoâs slowly pining away, wishing youâd see her as more than a pin cushion for your cockâŠ
Of course most situations I knew about involved youngish women- perhaps divorcees and married ladies who want to give a big F you to the hubby are an exception 