[quote=“TomHill”][quote=“Sophia101”]I apologize to everybody, especially Alice, for my disdainful attitude.
I apologize seriously to Sandman for my crude and strict words.
I am very sorry with myself.
Hope you all have happy discussions here.[/quote]
Don’t worry about it, the moderators are here to pick up our little messes. From my perspective it is interesting to read your posts because they are real/ honest, and come from someone very few of us would get to have this kind of open conversation with. The sad thing is that (in the posts that have been deleted) you did sound quite emotionally dead. I think that is something we foreigners pick up on. The shallow mundanity of life for many wealthy Taiwanese women.
The points you make to Alice are valid. Taiwanese men want to be mothered, but Western (whatever that means these days) men like a more equal partnership. That statement involves generalisations of course, but that doenst matter. Also that sex is only on the surface and it is not the best thing to entice a man with your sexuality. Further you say that to act ‘dumb’ in front of a man usually only works if you are pretty. Again, a valid generalisation. So nothing wrong with the advice to Alice.
And finally, our old mate Sandman needs the odd adversary to stand up to him. I was quite looking forward to you giving him more of a telling off. ‘Shit my mood,’ really was a funny quote too.
You are unique on this board, which is probably why you have come under the microscope so quickly. Don’t sweat it.[/quote]
Great post, Tom. Truth with a good dash of class. Nice!
All you have to do is smile and talk to him. Like Tommy525 said, guys are easy that way (and I almost never, ever agree with him on anything).
Sometimes I feel that half of my problems with the opposite sex is that I act like a woman when it comes to the mating ritual. I’m highly selective, look more at brains & personality than the body, am a bit initially shy & demure, find making crass opening moves highly distasteful, and actually have to deliberate & decide before I fuck someone on the first date. All of these are womanly, not manly traits. 95% of the sleazy foreign guys that I meet in Taiwan hanging around clubs are the exact opposite of me. But that’s perhaps not the most selective example of the shining glory of humanity.
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Quentins right. Most of us guys are happy to bang you and then decide if we like you (that is like your personality and not just your bod). A revealing dress , a great pair of legs on display will get our attention pretty fast.
Good news is you can meet a great guy anywhere. IN school, in a cafe (although not a computer cafe as those people are focused on the puter), at work (full of pitfalls here tho), on the bus, on the train, your cable tv guy, etc.
Just look as nice as you can and go up to the guy you like and offer him a cookie? Smile and say “hi, you want a cookie?”. This is guaranteed to work with 99pct of men (maybe even quentin).
Guys are always open to a direct approach by a lady and are open to food. SEe girls are right…most men are dogs. Have you ever seen a dog not go for a cookie?
Unless hes gay. Then nevermind.
oH hey and Quentin? Hang in there bro, cuz you could yet meet up with the gal that you fancy who approaches you in a manly fashion and asks you out on a date. It does happen.
You know, I’ve been accused of being gay, before. Especially in my highschool and college days. My parents suspected that I was gay for many years. A lot of my close friends thought it of me, too. I’ve had girls that liked me think that of me, and at least in a couple of cases a girl bitterly accusing me of being gay. The thing is, I’m far from it. I was just clueless. I guess I still am when it comes to women. My best friend’s ex-girlfriend - actually, both of his last two serious exes - accused me of being gay (the first one was serious [she was CRAZY, though] and the second one was just joking around). Not that there’s anything wrong with that, to quote Seinfeld. I guess if a guy doesn’t conform to gender stereotypes that’s what he gets pegged as.
