my boyfriend and I love each other evry much but we just can’t stop fighting or arguing about small things. it is always something rather unimportant, such as the way we talk… he loses his patience very quickly but forgets in few minutes. He loses his patience and pisses me off and then he comes back to me and pretend nothing happened earlier…I am just not so happy with that. he thinks I keep it for too long…I think it’s so unfair. when I want to talk with him about that, he says he already forgot and don’t want me to bring it back…well, so the same things happen again and again. do you fight with your SO too? we live together. the way we do or think things are absolutely very different…what should I do?
How long have you both lived together?
how often do we argue?
every MFing day.
Agree to treat each other properly for a start.
I’ve neen in rowdy relationships, even the one I’m in now was far more volatile than I would have liked at the outset, but mutually agreeing to aim to serve each other’s best interests on whatever level is the road to happiness in my book. That can also mean parting ways.
HG
Fight? What’s that? I have to be in the calmest relationship of my life because even if we disagree we both find other ways, like saying “What’s that you’re doing?..Really, well you know you might try doing it like this instead?..No, not interested? Right then, well if you change your mind you know where I am and I’ll show you again.”
Respect is the only way to prevent fighting. Once you have that, everything can go okay.
We fight once a month. Strangely it seems to always be around the same time of month…
[quote=“theposter”]how often do we argue?
every MFing day.[/quote]
Have you considered getting a personality transplant?
Haha. He is a smart man too. He usually shows up with my favourite Rain Forest Chocolates.
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Friday when I answered the door he just popped a piece in my mouth. How can you be angry when being hand fed chocolate?
We rarely fight. She just gets angry with me when I do stupid shit, like stay out too late with my mates…
How bout if While she was packing her stuff to move ALONE you went out with your friends to see a movie you promised to see with her and said you couldn’t take her because there wasn’t room in the car.
Would you fight then?
Almost never.
What’s the point of fighting with someone you love or even like. You don’t go to the bar and bicker with your mates or at least if you do it is in good humor.
I guess it’s a guy thing, or at least I guess I’m similar to your SO when I get mad. I try to be patient, but when push comes to a push to far, then I explode, get it over with and forget about it. The problem is that women sees that quite different in my experience and the ones I’ve been with tends to hold a grudge, sometimes for days…
I hate getting mad, but when I do I can’t hold it back, but once I’ve had it off my chest, I’m fine again. But as so many people here have said, it doesn’t generally make things better, no matter if it makes you feel better at the moment, in tends to come back and slap you in the face in the end…
humm,
fight sounds like is too much…
argues could be normal as long as no hate involved.
if hes is not patient and it endup in a fight from my point of view could be another girl behind, hes love is shared. why else he should not be patient then?? 
just my 5 cents…
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We never fight. I’ve never had fights with any of my previous girlfriends either. I never have fights with any of my friends or colleagues either. I guess it begins with mutual respect, and willingness to disagree without getting upset. 
How Often?
All fuggin Day!
All that astrology shite comes to Bear…
Mars Assending/Scorpio is some heavy shite to witness.
The problem is, it takes two with that attitude to work. If one person doesn’t have that attitude, all the effort in the world to maintain that attitude on the part of the other will still result in fights.
That said, my parents rarely fight - the worst I’ve ever heard from them are minor disagreements with quick resolutions. Growing up, this was totally normal, and a non-fighting attitude was essentially built into me.
Then after dating my first girlfriend for a year, we started getting in fights, and this freaked me out. (She always picked the fights, but it was almost always something I did, didn’t do, said or didn’t say that inspired her to pick the fights; usually something trivial on my part like sitting down on the sofa after getting home, asking her if she was done with something, placing something a few inches from its proper place, taking time to study for an exam, loading the dishwasher “wrong”, or discreetly pointing out that she was driving in the wrong direction.) I tried being non-confrontational and Zen-like, but that only made things worse. The relationship grew into something poisonous and horrible. She refused to help me mend it, so I had no choice but to end it. She treated me like shit, and when I broke it off, she wondered why…
Andway, that experience made me more judicious in my future selections of mates.
I was once in a relationship like the one Chris mentioned. She would constantly provoke a fight over anything. Even something as trivial as things to buy in the grocery store. The fighting really began about a year after being together. We finally broke up and in retrospect I don’t know what the hell I was doing with her after we started fighting. (maybe it was the make-up sex ) Needless to say I have been much more picky about who I date and if there is a disagreement I will talk to the person about appropriate ways to handle the situation if an arguemnt has gotten volatile. If that doesn’t work I drop them like a bad habit. There is nothing wrong with disagreements but there is a fine line between love and hate.
As a side note my friend heard a couple arguing about what bread to buy in the grocery store. When he turned the aisle he saw my ex-girlfriend arguing with her new man. I really felt sorry for the poor bastard. I laughed about it and realized it was just her not me.
When my so shuts up the moment there is a problem we fight.
I always ask her to talk to me about said issue so we can resolve it before it turns into something bigger but she seems nearly incapable of doing so. Similar to other Taiwanese women I have dated in the past.
She says that it’s better to wait 'till later to talk about it.
That drives me mad but she still does it often :fume:
[quote= the ones I’ve been with tends to hold a grudge, sometimes for days…
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TRY YEARS. jeez stay with a woman long enough she will bring shit up from 10 years ago. All women do this. Show me a woman who doesn’t hold onto fights and remember shit for years and I guarantee you: Hell will freeze over.